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Am I crazy?

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cedar12 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:29:23

We bought a teddy before matching. We went on holiday a month before panel and dd chose one. It was in the photos we did for ds. So your not mad!
He still takes it to bed now.

cedar12 Sun 14-Jul-13 17:29:04

We bought a teddy before matching. We went on holiday a month before panel and dd chose one. It was in the photos we did for ds. So your not mad!
He still takes it to bed now.

Italiangreyhound Sun 14-Jul-13 14:40:18

Wow, thanks guys, one and all.

I am feeling much more ready for it all, excited, pleased and like I will be able to cope!

It's good to know I am in such good company.

Mum2lots Sun 14-Jul-13 10:28:13

As a foster carer this is a post that makes me smile xxxx

Maiyakat Sun 14-Jul-13 08:58:26

My DD has a bunny that I nearly cried when I bought - felt like such a normal mum thing to do after the very different journey to motherhood! Bunny was in all the intro book photos and now gets unceremoniously thrown out of the cot every morning grin

Happiestinwellybobs Sun 14-Jul-13 08:24:57

I remember buying a monkey from Mothercare and grinning all the way to the till! We had yet to be approved at that point. In fact I bought a few bits and pieces before approval, including clothes - which are still too big for her, over a year later, as DD was much younger than we had anticipated.

We were also bought a ride on toy and took a picture of one of the toys we has bought sat on it. I think the tea party is a lovely idea smile

morethanpotatoprints Sun 14-Jul-13 00:52:45

I think it is lovely, and if the children you have ever feel insecure you can tell them how excited you were about them, before you'd even met.

Italiangreyhound Sun 14-Jul-13 00:41:20

That is super cool. We have already taken most of the pictures but could include the bunny in a few more!

Lilka Sat 13-Jul-13 23:33:13

I think that's really sweet smile

I've heard of parents setting up their book (the one that the child gets before intros start) so the main character is a teddy, and the teddy introduces mummy, daddy and basically the teddy is in every picture, of the garden, the bedroom, the dinner table, with the grandparents etc. Then on the first day of intros the parents bring teddy along and give it to the child as their intros gift. That seems to be pretty successul, the child usually loves the toy and is excited that it's the same one as in their book

I bought one or two things before matching for my children, and it is really nice smile It's very personal when it feels right to get something.

Italiangreyhound Sat 13-Jul-13 23:13:23

One of our jobs was to take a photo of the child's new room, it looked so dull and boring with just a bed and wardrobe we decided to set up a little teddy bear tea party as the main feature of the photo.

But DH worried that the child would expect all the teddies in the photo to be their teddies when they arrived! as we were using DD's teddies and she doesn't always want to share! So we asked her to give a couple of teddies for the child, I have two of my one's that I was keeping for just that purpose and today we bought a little rabbit for them too!

It feels beyond weird to buy a gift for a child we have not even been matched to and before we are approved! I certainly won't be buying anything else, but it felt kinda nice. I even carried it like a baby and handed it to the shop assistant rather than putting it on the conveyor belt!

Am I crazy or did anyone else do this?

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