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Draining day

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Hayleyh34 · 11/05/2013 22:22

Just had one of those days and need some hand holding. DD has screamed at us throughout the whole day, did my very best to stay calm with her but snapped at her a few times. She threw everything in the book at us and said she wanted a new family. Feel so very drained

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Devora · 11/05/2013 23:25

Here, both hands outstretched

How old is dd?

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KristinaM · 11/05/2013 23:33

No wonder you are exhausted :-(

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Italiangreyhound · 11/05/2013 23:58

Hayley so sorry to hear this. Stay strong.

I have no experience at all but I wonder if she testing? Is she wondering, if I am horrible will they get rid of me? No idea at all but I wonder.

I can recommend a fantastic book called 'How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk' by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk

It might help a bit to have something positive to focus on.

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Lilka · 12/05/2013 01:36

Have both my hands as well x

Hope you are in bed now and resting...I hope you wake up feeling less drained. Every day is a new day

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Hayleyh34 · 12/05/2013 09:31

Thanks everyone. DD is 5 and has been with us for 2 and a half years. We have cycles of hard behaviour and we're in the midst of it at the moment. Have woken up feeling refreshed and ready to tackle the day! Really appreciate the responses last night. This is bloody hard at times isn't it?

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Moomoomie · 12/05/2013 13:16

Hayley.... I feel your pain, hopefully today is abetter day for you all.
Pick your battles.
Keep reassuring her of your love.

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Happiestinwellybobs · 12/05/2013 14:08

Hope today is a better one :)

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Hayleyh34 · 12/05/2013 19:43

Much better day today thanks. Spent most of last night telling her that she is not a bad girl as she thinks what happened to her in the past happened because she was bad . We had a big family lunch today that I thought would be tough for her but overall it was good. Hope you've all had good weekends.

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Devora · 12/05/2013 21:44

Oh Hayley, your poor little girl.

Really glad today was easier. Hope it gave you breathing space and renewed strength.

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Lilka · 12/05/2013 21:53

It's so sad, your poor little thing :(

Thanks goodness today was easier on you all, I'm glad to hear it and hope you enjoyed lunch

My weekend has been good thank you :) You know, I dug out a poem today which I wrote before christmas after my own DD2 had an awful night/day and realised that despite having tough times recently she is on a relatively stable keel, so it was good to see she stills progresses

Your little girl will grow in her understanding, and she will come to realise she did nothing at all wrong

At some point you will be able to look back on yesterday and think 'goodness how far DD has come since then, she understands so much more now' which is a good thought

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Hayleyh34 · 13/05/2013 06:28

Thanks Devora and Lilka, it's nice to communicate with other people who know what it's like.