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Medical reasons / weight etc to not be allowed to be a surogate?

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hhhhhhh Tue 16-Apr-13 22:20:09

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Italiangreyhound Wed 17-Apr-13 09:57:07

oceanbeach I have no experience of surogacy but do of donor eggs. If you are going to use a donor egg where will you get them from? If it is via a UK clinic then I would tall to the clinic to get an idea if what is allowed. Plus I eod look into the UK surrogacey organisations for their guidelines. Is there a medical risk for your cousin in being overweight and pregnant? I am sure it us possible to be obese and still pregnant but how might it affect her health and baby's health. I hope someone will be would with more advice. You may find if you post in conception you get more replies.

QOD Fri 19-Apr-13 13:12:09

You'd have to check with an IVF clinic. The one you plan to use I guess.
She'd be having natural cycle IVF if you're not getting egg collection for her, so not a massive health risk?

Only the clinic can answers,

hhhhhhh Fri 19-Apr-13 13:45:47

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Italiangreyhound Fri 19-Apr-13 18:13:38

Is there a special reason you would like to be related to your surrogate or could you try going through an agency?

All the very best.

hhhhhhh Fri 19-Apr-13 18:34:21

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HDEE Fri 19-Apr-13 18:40:01

I think most clinics will like a BMI below 35. Is she likely to be over this?

Research as many clinics as possible, and I've heard amazing things said about Brno, which is obviously abroad, but know of a few surrogate babies starting there.

HDEE Fri 19-Apr-13 18:41:48

Also, would she be willing to consider straight surrogacy, using her own egg? No need to even involve clinics if she and you are open to that idea.

hhhhhhh Fri 19-Apr-13 19:07:32

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QOD Fri 19-Apr-13 21:37:54

Just so you know, there aren't surrogates you can get to know and chose from wth regard to straight surrogacy.
They are few and far between.
I used COTS myself for the support and legal info (my friend offered to be my straight surrogate) and the surrogates chose the IP's THEMSELVES

I think surrogacy uk is more social based, but again, they chose YOU

If you want to pick, you'll have to go out of the uk, the USA perhaps?

Host surrogacy is your only chance if you want to stay uk only, if you've not got your own surrogate lined up

hhhhhhh Fri 03-May-13 12:08:57

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happydazy1 Fri 03-May-13 14:38:59

hey I have read a few of your threads and want to wish you luck with everything. However I can't help thinking that maybe you are overthinking things a little bit and wanting everything to be a bit too perfect.

People do this when thinking of having birth children as well, waiting till they have the right home, job with good benefits etc. People often say that there is never the "right" time to have kids!

As long as things go ok and the surrogate is reliable (e.g. not doing anything crazy like drinking, smoking, etc) the pregnancy won't really be that major a thing to think about once you have the child and so it doesn't really matter that much in the long term how much involvement you have with the surrogate during pregnancy. Ok it would be nice to be involved but long term once you have the child I don't think it really matters.

Likewise with maternity pay - ok it would be great to have good benefits but plenty people lose their jobs while pregnant or never had above stat min benefits to start with. They cope somehow.

Anyway I just wanted to say that to try and encourage you to try and do this even if you can't work out some of the finer details such as pay or a local surrogate.

I have a child via surrogacy (host) and used a surrogate from a different country. OK not ideal and we had to travel etc. But now I have my child I don't really think about it at all. I will tell the child of course in a few years but for now I am just enjoying my dc. If I'd attended scans etc for the child I don't think would make any difference to how I feel about my dc now.

Anyway like I said, just wanted to wish you luck!

hhhhhhh Sun 05-May-13 19:25:27

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