Hello
This is very upsetting so please bare with me as my heart is breaking.
My sister has had two children, one aged 4 was removed at 12 weeks and placed with my Mum and Dad who now have an SGO for her and they are her mummy and daddy. 2 weeks ago she gave birth to another beautiful girl who was removed at birth from the hospital and taken straight to my Mum to care for with the intention of another SGO being sort in 6 months.
Without going into all the details my Mum and Dad's (and the 4yr olds) lives are being made hell by this situation. SS have been no use to them at all and are just using them as an easy solution to an awful situation. I can't even begin to explain how vile my sister is being and how little she has considered anyone else.
So my parents have had to make the heartbreaking decision to have the 2 week old adopted out They want her to have the best possible life ever and don't feel they can offer that to her, I support their decision 100% (I would no matter what the decided) but it is killing us all. We love that little thing so much she is just gorgeous.
Of course as adults we will sort ourselves out but what I really need some advice on is how to approach this subject/change with the children. Firstly how do we explain to her big sister that she is going to live somewhere else and have a different mummy and daddy etc and then how do we tell my 3 dc that their newest niece is leaving?
As I said her sister is 4 (a very bright and perceptive 4) and my DC are 8, 7 and 5. I am also due to give birth next week which just adds to the emotional turmoil of everyone involved.
Sorry this is so long, I am just dying inside but need to get some clear advice for the sake of all the other children involved and my Mum and Dad.
Thank you if you have managed to get this far, all advice is welcomed.
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