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Dreading Christmas

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WendyGx Fri 23-Nov-12 13:30:07

I know this is so selfish but I am dreading Christmas. We have been waiting so long for a family and yet another Christmas without a family is just breaking my heart. I am suggesting to my husband we should go away over Christmas and he says I just want to run away from Christmas - and he's right. I cannot face the family do's with children.

I have a wonderful husband and a supportive family, but its just not enough. Every year since 2005, we have said 'next year will be different' and already the '2013 will be our year' has started. Its so tough seeing all the wonderful christmas clothes and gifts for children and as usual I've bought way too much for me neices and friend's children. I thought I was going to burst into tears in Waterstones on Tuesday, looking at Children's books and day dreaming about reading to them. My Dad always said I needed to learn how to dance in the rain (rather than wait for the rain to stop).

I've read how some of you who have adopted have found Christmas a challenge, as this is potentially unsettling for an adopted child. My friend who has adopted twice also tells me its not the fairy tale I dream of...but its clearly better than without them.

We have a DVD session at our LA in December and I'm nervous about it as my emotions are so high. I do want to go, but how will I react?

Oh dear, I would appreciate anyone's help or advice on how they coped through Christmas before their family arrived.

WendyGx Tue 18-Dec-12 17:24:26

Hi Mary and thank you!! Yes we too hope its the last rest we get!!

We are trying not to get too excited and if we don't get matched it won't be great but we an idea of children coming through in jan who might work. Trying to manage our expectations...crossing of limbs withstanding! You do make lots of sense - thanks x

hermioneweasley Tue 18-Dec-12 17:32:29

Have a brilliant time Wendy. I hope this time next year you are being driven to your wit's end over nativity costumes and Santa induced hysteria, and look back on your wonderful adults' only holiday.

ShamyFarrahCooper Wed 19-Dec-12 14:55:41

Keeping everything crossed for you Wendy & have a lovely holiday!

Lilka Wed 19-Dec-12 15:39:25

Everything crossed for you Wendy, and have a fantastic holiday smile

Italiangreyhound Thu 20-Dec-12 03:29:35

Super news. In my humble opinion....

Your priorities are:
Flaunt self to hubby/partner only!
Get lots of me time
Get lots of hubby/partner time
Have fun

Worry - no that is not even on the list!

Try and relax and I think Mary speaks pearls of wisdom. No wish to offend if you are not at all religious but I am sending up arrow prayers (quick pointy ones!) for the right choice for your family/this little ones family for Thursday and the right little one for you to all fall into place, and for a fab holiday.

It is very nice to know that people talking to you virtually like this has been a help and I am sure I will be in a similar boat when we get to that stage (if we do!). Prep course starts next month!!

All the best and a very blessed and adult-centred Christmas to you, and many more non-adult centred ones too!

MaryChristmaZEverybody Fri 21-Dec-12 08:28:44

So, I suspect no news isn't good news about the little boy, Wendy? I'm sorry if that's the case, but do get away and try hard to put it out of your mind a bit.

Next year will be your year, I can feel it in my waters (as my Granny used to say).


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