Had dd's 2 year developmental check yesterday with the PHN and a student PHN. After ooing and ahhing over how cute she is, they pulled out her file and commented on the fact that she was adopted.
Student PHN said 'she's such a lucky little girl'
'Do you think so?' says I, 'She was in an institution for the first 14 months of her life, not ideal I would have thought.'
'No I mean she's so lucky to have you now.'
I know she meant well but I kept at it and said ' No, we're the lucky ones.'
The PHN then said 'You have an older boy, is he your own?'
'They're both my own,' says I.
'O, you know what I mean,' says she.
'I'm not sure that I do,' says I. 'Do you mean is he my biological son?'
'Yes, that's what I meant.'
'Yes he's my bio son but they are both my own children. That's not a phrase I'd like DD to hear when she's older. She's as much mine as DS is. I know you don't mean any harm by it but the langage of adoption is really important.'
My ears were well and truly burning on my walk home but I was SO proud of myself. I'm usually very non-confrontational and will smart over things but say nothing.
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Happyasapiginshite · 16/11/2012 12:29
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