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MyDogEatsPoop Fri 05-Oct-12 12:28:22

A 'getting to know you' thread, as I'd like to update my spreadsheet wink

I'll kick off shall I?

Started the process with the first (nervewracking) phonecall in June of 2010, Workshop not until July 2011(!), followed by Homestudy a couple of months later.
Finally approved in June 2012 smile
Turned down one link as not suitable, and have a meeting coming up soon to discuss a little girl!

Mum2G Mon 11-Feb-13 18:36:32

Fab news MrsBW, great that you didn't have to wait to find out too

Happiestinwellybobs Sun 10-Feb-13 18:43:58

Ooh exciting news!! smile

Happiestinwellybobs Sun 10-Feb-13 18:11:38

Ooh exciting news!! smile

Italiangreyhound Sun 10-Feb-13 15:35:29

Fab, * MrsBW* good news.

MrsBW Sun 10-Feb-13 15:32:06

Visit went brilliantly, totally different from last time. Social Worker said there and then that she'd be making a recommendation that we be placed on next month's prep group.

We're on our way grin

Italiangreyhound Mon 28-Jan-13 02:16:34

MyDogEatsPoop wow, wonderful news. I just wish you best fun time getting that room ready and thinking of her in it! I really hope all goes well.

Best of luck Maiyacat.

Verity would you be willing to tell me or PM about the medical, what do they check? Also the family tree, how detailed is it and what is it all about, I've not heard of it before. A firm handshake from me and maybe an air kiss or two back to you.

MrsBW, hope it goes well for you next month, not long to go.

Best wishes to Fishwife1949, Cheltenhamgirl, Sadie, Tigglette, Juno, Happiestinwellybobs, Loco and Wendy

MrsBW Sun 27-Jan-13 19:56:02

You can add me to your spreadsheet smile

Started the journey with an LA and fell at the second hurdle i.e. they didn't accept us onto prep group after our initial visit, as my husband and I hadn't lived together for long enough; he worked away from home for a couple of years.

Now starting the process again with a VA and have initial visit in early Feb so here's hoping!!!

Nice to 'meet' you all and I hope those at intros or matching are getting along well. x

MyDogEatsPoop Sun 27-Jan-13 15:43:47

Oh, just read back properly - good luck Maiyacat!

MyDogEatsPoop Sun 27-Jan-13 15:41:45

Hello! We went to Matching Panel on Wednesday, and were unanimously approved! Now though, we've got a bit of a wait again AGAIN until intros, as they have to sort out the intro-planning meeting (I forget the proper name of that!), and do some work with small child before intros can start.

She is nearly five!

Lilka Sun 27-Jan-13 14:25:03

That's fantastic MyDog smile Good luck for Panel!

Can I ask how old she is?

VerityPushpram Sun 27-Jan-13 13:41:11

Hey, good luck with that!

Maiyakat Sun 27-Jan-13 11:23:28

Glad to hear of all the positive progress! MyDogEatsPoop, have you been to matching panel yet? So exciting!

I have a possible link, not telling people in RL yet... Trying so hard not to get carried away and failing, as there are so many hurdles to go yet

MyDogEatsPoop Sun 13-Jan-13 12:47:43

Sorry - I started the thread, and haven't updated myself.

Well, the match to the little girl went ahead, and we're off to matching panel in a couple of weeks. It's not been easy - she's quite the character, by all accounts, and we're definitely going to have our work cut out, but we're pretty sure it's going to be fun as well!

We've been wallpapering her room, installing blackout blinds and painting furniture this weekend. I'm quite jealous of her girly bedroom.

Happiestinwellybobs Sun 13-Jan-13 11:17:02

We finally got our court date and had our celebration in December - a relief that it was all finally official smile. I am back at work tomorrow, so we have been doing a phased induction into nursery. She is loving it, which I thought would be the case as she is such a confident little girl, but you still worry about these things. Luckily I am able to return part time so can still spend a couple of days having fun with her.

She has settled in at home brilliantly - the past 9 months have flown - made lots of little friends (the babas, even though they are all only a couple of months younger than her!). I still have to pinch myself sometimes - 12 months ago we didn't even know anything about her !!

VerityPushpram Sun 13-Jan-13 10:50:35

I've missed this thread, so I'll add myself to it. We had our prep group November/december, started home visits last week, just had our medicals, and CRB checks will be on wednesday this week. We've also got a load of homework! Done about half of it, want to get the rest done today (financial statement, just finishing off the family tree).

So, a firm handshake from me and maybe an airkiss or two. Hope everyone is progressing well, see you around.

Italiangreyhound Sun 13-Jan-13 03:29:11

Loco, Wendy, Sadie, and Cheltenhamgirl - sorry if I missed anyone off. How are you all. I can't sleep! Am in middle of prep group. Not literally this minute of course!

Best wishes to you all. On the fertility threads we were always hugging each other, doesn't seem to be quite the thing to do here! so firm handshakes all round! Off to be bed now but would love to hear how you all are.

Italiangreyhound Sun 13-Jan-13 03:24:57

Hey guys, any news for anyone - MyDogEatsPoop, Fishwife1949, Tigglette, Juno, Happiestinwellybobs, Maiyakat and anyone else???

Cheltenhamgirl Sat 29-Dec-12 23:24:13

Hi we are at the start of a long road. We enquirer in July this year through Barnados and started the assessment process in September, have had numerous visits already by SW, both together and on our own. Have had medicals, crb checks, references completed, family trees drawn up and are still going through the assesment process. Our training is next month and I am looking forward to meeting other prospective adopters. Does anyone know how far we have to go before we get to the panel? I will ask our SW next time we see her, just thought I'd get opinions.

HappySunflower Mon 19-Nov-12 17:55:46

You will probably be offered the opportunity to talk to some adopters, and during the presentationy bit they often reel off some stats for you- number of children adopted last year, and their ages, etc.

I don't remember a lot else!

Karbea Mon 19-Nov-12 17:00:17


I've not posted on here for a bit, but thought i'd pop by to say it's finally the open morning at the LA tomorrow for us. I think it'll be really interesting and DH and I will have a lot of talking to do afterwards... I've told him to expect horror stories, but what else should we expect to hear?

Italiangreyhound Tue 06-Nov-12 23:19:47

Happy I hope it will all be OK in your job situation. I feel very cross for you that they have not helped you.

All the best and stay in touch... please...(just nice to hear new people's new experiences).

WendyGx Tue 06-Nov-12 15:05:02

Hi Happy, I'm pleased its at least something you can manage for 12 weeks. It annoys me that some employers are so shortsighted. You'll be having a busy 3 months, best of luck with the job hunt.
Italian, hope you don't ever need the advice! Thanks for kind words.

KristinaM Tue 06-Nov-12 13:04:22

I'm sorry to hear all this, it DOES sound very stressful indeed. And so short sighted of your employer, who undoubtedly will lose a good emplyee. I hope you can put up with the situation and find something more suitable soon

HappySunflower Tue 06-Nov-12 11:41:34

Thanks everyone- we've finally reached an agreement.
It was not what I had asked for but will do for now- at least until I work my 12 weeks by which I hope to have found another job.

It has been a very stressful few weeks!

Italiangreyhound Sun 04-Nov-12 23:44:04

Happysunflower any news? Thinking of you and hoping things will develop in a good way. I feel your employer seems to be acting badly!

Wendy made a lot of helpful comments and suggestions, I will take note of them in case I find myself in a similar boat!

Happy I do hope it will work out, if they do squeese you out in any way I hope you will take whatever action is appropriate (I mean legal) because it sounds rather anti-family policy at the very least. ESPECIALLY as you have said about home working, which is what many employers seem to actually want! Home working can result in fewer work-related train/car journeys, people clogging up roads etc - working from home is rather the future/modern/environmentally-friendly, so for them not to allow it or to restrict it a lot seems not at all sensible!

Anyway, thinking of you.

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