I currently have my little one on a Residence Order and soon to be pressing ahead with an adoption (wish me luck!!) as he will never be placed back with his biological mother.
I am very worried about his emotional wellbeing at the moment, as well as his security. He currently has contact with his birth mum 6 times yearly and each contact session feels like he's gone for a photo shoot as she must take one hundred pictures, easily.
Because of his age (20 months) I have been advised that direct contact at the very least is likely to stop altogether if the adoption goes through.
However, in the meantime, I am worried that his biological mother puts these pictures she takes on facebook, with details of his name, where born, date of birth etc and information about myself and what she thinks of me (not nice things as you can probably imagine).
I've recently had a group of girls stopping us when out shopping saying "oh this is X's little boy and so you must be X". I didn't deny it but looking back now, wished I had! Then they were commenting saying how unfair it was he was taken from X and that he should be with her and should love her etc. I had to say to them that details about his case were confidential and certainly don't need to be discussed whilst out shopping, in front of him!
She has also requested that she bring her new boyfriend (one of many) to contact, who goes by the name of X 'The Hitman' X. I refused entirely as, just by his name he sounds a danger and the little boy in question, in my opinion doesn't need to be meeting her boyfriends, who change frequently. But, I worry about these types of people knowing exactly what he looks like.
Anyway, my main question really is - can I stop her placing these pictures on facebook whilst he is on a Residence Order? I have asked her directly to remove them but she refuses. I just worry about him having to grow up around here and all these strangers approaching him and knowing his business. He could possibly even attend school with some of them as we live quite close. If they didn't know what he looked like, it wouldn't be so much of an issue.
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tigerlillyd02 · 25/07/2011 22:16
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