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Gift for a newly adopted child- would this be OK?

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Fayrazzled Fri 17-Jun-11 13:32:37

My lovely friend has been matched with a little girl. I know nothing is written in stone as yet about the outcome (but fingers crossed for them both). My friend is delighted and terrified in equal measure!

I don't want to give too many details away as it's not my story to tell, but the child is young junior school-age. I so want to mark the occasion for my friend as I would any of my friends having birth children. In the past I have my friends "welcome baby" boxes containing vests, muslins, bibs, a small toy etc etc. I realise something similar won't be appropriate for this little girl as she will have her own belongings, and things my friend wishes to buy for her the little girl will no doubt want to put her own input into.

So, I thought about making her a quilt for on the bed in her new bedroom. Would this be appropriate? It is something that's personal and I could put a lot of love into, which I would enjoy doing. However, I obviously wouldn't make a big deal of it. I'd give it to my friend before she brings her daughter home and it would be up to them what they did with it. Good idea or not? Many thanks for your thoughts.

savoycabbage Fri 17-Jun-11 13:43:15

Personally, I would love that.

Even if the little girl didn't use it on her bed it would still be a lovely and personal gift.

EarthMotherImNot Fri 17-Jun-11 13:51:26

It's a lovely idea, well done yousmile

hester Fri 17-Jun-11 15:17:52

It's a lovely idea; what a nice friend you are. I wish someone had done that for me when I brought my dd home!

thefirstMrsDeVere Fri 17-Jun-11 15:23:35

I think its a great idea and not too overwhelming. Something comforting that says 'home'

Perfect.

Fayrazzled Fri 17-Jun-11 19:02:51

Thanks so much for your responses. I'm glad you think it is a good idea. It might not be the most perfect quilt in the world but it will be made with lots of love. I'm so thrilled for my friend, and I'm chuffed for the little girl because I know my friend is going to make the most brilliant mum. It makes me all teary thinking of them getting each other. I really hope it works out.

scaryfairy28 Tue 28-Jun-11 20:58:46

What about a box for your friend as well like your idea for the mum of a new born but with a bottle of wine, chocolates, bubble bath, an adoption book like 'building the bonds of attachment', anything else that might help in the stressful months to come.

notfarmingatthemo Wed 29-Jun-11 13:27:34

sounds nice, my friend enjoyed all the meals that were cooked for them and space from friends to get to know their dc. Friend new we were only a call away if they wanted to call us but I never called only sent the odd text so they new we were thinking about them. Now a couple of years in I call they the same as all my other friends.
I bought a game the family could spend time playing.

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