Got a bad vibe from nursery teacher!

[Rach1721]

My son started nursery at the end of august. Only does 2 half days a week. First couple of weeks he was upset at drop off but then he kinds of settled with no crying at the door. It was lovely to see. A staff member would come out and he would go straight to them with a smile on his face and that made me feel so much better!

Anyway, the past couple of weeks the room leader of his room has come out to take him inside and as soon as she opens the door and he sees her he's hysterical and it breaks my heart. He's been fine with everyone else coming to collect him outside but it's as soon as he sees her 😞!

My partners step sister used to work in the nursery my little boy is at and I spoke to her about the room leader and she said she's very stern with the children. I completely get he's going to come across people he doesn't like/ get on with throughout his life but it absolutely breaks my heart to see him that way.

I actually can't bare it and I get a proper nervous sickly feeling the night before he goes 😩 I ring and they message me on the app to say he's fine throughout the day but when they send me pictures of him he always looks upset! I don't know if I'm looking into it too much because I got a bad vibe from her anyway and my son obviously has as well!!

Has anyone else been through something like this and can give me some advice please!

Tia x

[Antinerak]

It could just be that he's still settling in and getting used to everyone, he could be struggling to transition now that he's realised he's going to nursery for more than just the first few days or something could have happened. Even something as small as him being upset and her not comforting him properly could change his behaviour towards her. He could even be going through a growth spurt/teething and just in a funny phase.

As the situation has changed and he's suddenly not enjoying it as much, you could first try to speak to the manager and let them know your concerns about her. If they don't have a plan of action or brush it off as him just settling in, you may need to look for another nursery. They should speak to her and work out why he's upset when he sees her. Or they'll make sure someone else greets him in the morning, and he has plenty of time to phase from you to the staff.

Hopefully it's nothing, he may just need more time to settle in and get used to it but you know your boy best, and you should always trust your gut x