Worried about my 10 months old development

[ttrrii]

Hello! First of all, sorry for my english, i’m actually from Poland.
I have concers about my sons (10 months old) development. He is my second child, so its impossible not to compare him with my daughter, who was acting so differently at that age.
I’m gonna list the things that worry me:

1. He does not like cuddles. He only likes to be held facing forwards so he can see everything. He did like cuddles until he was about 4 months old. When he was a baby, he always slept on me. But now he just pulls himself away from me. He does like cuddles when he is laying down and i kiss him or give him massage.
   
2. He is very very fussy all the time. Always seeking for my attention and wants to be picked up. He has extreme separation axciety. I cant leave the room, cause he will start crying.
   
3. He is a bad sleeper. Likes to fall asleep breastfeeding and sleeps 40-50 minutes.
   
4. He is shy around strangers. Thats the thing that worries me the most. He will look at them, smile and then turn his head away. He does not like to hold eye contact with people he does not know, but even when his father returs from work, he acts shy around him too. He never does that with me. His eye contact with me is great as he always keeps an eye of what i’m doing. When someone comes to visit, then after about 30 minutes he will be more calm and look them for longer periods. It is strange because he always smiles when someone talks to him, but after that turns his head away. That have not been always like that, i think it started when he was 6-7 monhts old? Before that he stared at strangers for long periods.
   
5. He does not babble - he makes some sounds, but not mama, dada, gaga and so on.
   
6. He does not crawl or sit, he is commando crawling and goind to crawling position but not moving forwards.
   
7. He does not follow my point and of course he does not point, wave or clap. He did pat when i said to him, but recently he has not done that anymore. Regression?
   
   I have been to neurologist and occupational therapist, who does not think that there is anything to worry. He gave them plenty of eye contact and joint attention (looked at the doctor and then the toy what doctor was showing him). He does respond to his name and unsderstands no ( he smiles when i say it to him and looks at me) .
   But i still have that gut feeling that there is something not right. Everything just screams autism for me. I know I should not google and compare my child to others, but he is just so different.
   
   Any advice?

[picklemewalnuts]

Just keep doing all the things I'm sure you are doing! Lots of pleasurable sensory experience, talking, rhymes, books, new places, new people...
Lots of reassurance about new things. That will all help him whether he has autism or not.

He may well be different developmentally from your dd, he may have autism, or he may not. All you can do is help him have as rich a life as possible.
When he is older, things will be clearer.

[Mas05]

@ttrrii hi any updates? TIA

[ttrrii]

hey! he is still behind, does not walk nor talk (21 months old), but turned out he has GLUT1 deficiency syndrome. We had gene panel, cause of the developmental delay.
Ketogenic diet will help him develop, we are starting soon :)