If you have 2 under 2..

[YumYumApplePie]

How long did it take your toddler to get used to the new baby?

My lovely 21 month old has had some epic tantrums since the new baby arrived. I know there worked has changed massively and I'd expected some teething issues. But I'd love to hear from those who have survived this and come through the other side?

[MyOtherProfile]

I had 2 under 2 and the main thing is to make sure the eldest still gets time without the baby in the way. From both parents if possible, so they know that basic relationship hasn't changed.

[BluntlySpoken]

About 2 months.
But GPS also took her out for days to have some alone time doing something special for her. As did we individually and as a family.
She's now a threenager and gone back to tantrums!

[Crowsandshivers]

Mine was 18 months when I had my second and honestly, he instantly got used to it. He loved having a baby at home. I let him help a lot and included him in everything. I think that helped a lot as he felt like the big brother. They are super close still. It is a lovely age gap.

[Dr273]

I haven't yet, but will soon... I've heard you should give the older child priority time, and jobs to help you, like when you introduce a new pet to an old one! It worked with out cat and dog anyway, so hoping it works with babies.

[YumYumApplePie]

@Crowsandshivers my toddler is loving the baby. Helping with nappy's, singing to her, wants to hold her, stroke her etc.

We've had a few tantrums, though not directed at the baby. Or anything to do with baby.

I hate to think she's distressed and upset but can't express herself

[Crowsandshivers]

That sounds lovely that she is so keen on baby. I'm sure the tantrums will improve soon- mine still have the odd ones but most of the time they entertain each other. It is worth it in the long run 🙂

[Creepygnochi]

I've had two under two at one point and three under two at another, and if I'm to be perfectly honest, both sets of the oldest children were my most difficult in terms of behaviour.

The oldest of two under two was really my only tantrum thrower, my twins from the three under two didn't sleep alone until they were 4 and both suffered from childhood anxiety disorders.