Now having a massive wobble .
I’m currently living at home with my mum, who has disabilities and needs some level of care (variable) . I’m thirty . I’m studying from home distance learning but have been offered to take up a place face to face learning when and if covid retreats a bit .
I’ve told the uni I’m happy with that . I’ve explained to my mum who says she’s happy with that .
I’ve just explained to my mum’s mother - my gran - who is utterly devastated - almost in tears .
I’m thirty, I want to have relationships, sex, friends, to go out in the evening, to go on holiday, to have my own money, to make my own choices, to make mistakes and to feel independent .
At present I can’t do any of those things - it’s my mums house so her choices etc .
I know I’m going to get a big backlash from family for making this choice and terrified of what’s coming next, hands are shaking but did I do the right thing ?
I keep remembering a conversation with my GP several years ago, GP said to me if I didn’t start putting myself first I’d end up 70, alone and realising I never really had a life .
I’m thirty and already realising I’ve lost out on a lot .
I’m not sure if I’ve done the right thing and if making that decision is just selfish, I’ve already talked to my mums MH team and GP who are in full support, but I’m so worried . I don’t want to fail my mum in some way .
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Oh help . Have just told family I’m moving out .
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desperatelyneedingidependance · 12/02/2021 11:26
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