Inspired by a 'heated discussion' that I had with DH this morning.
I am a very detail-oriented person and like people to be precise and specific. DH is more laissez-faire and doesn't seem to pay attention to ANY small details. He doesn't read recipes properly. Doesn't read anything properly, really, unless it's for work (apparently). And just generally doesn't put any value on small details being accurate or important. I find the way he communicates very frustrating too, if I say something like 'what time will you be home tonight' he will often respond with something like 'oh I probably won't be back for dinner'. THAT'S NOT WHAT I ASKED! I asked for a time. You are just assuming that I'm enquiring about dinner, which I might be, but it's still not a time. "Not back for dinner" could be 8pm or 11pm.
It drives me up the wall. Yes, I'm probably too highly strung about it and it's probably annoying for him to have me always asking him to pay attention to things that he doesn't see as important (and they aren't, generally, although he does have form for cocking up with semi-important things like house insurance because he hasn't read the details properly). We are just very different in this respect - it has been like this forever and I imagine it always will be.
Does anyone else frequently feel like filing for divorce have one particular different trait to their partner? And do you feel like it's a problem or do you think that overall it makes you a better team?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Join the discussion and meet other Mumsnetters on our free online chat forum.
Chat
What are your and your partner's most incompatible traits?
57 replies
Rockettrain · 11/02/2021 16:56
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.