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Poor, poor woman

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Mookie81 · 26/01/2021 07:43

Complete lack of support and nowhere to turn.
A terrible deed but I feel so sorry for her.
And where the fuck was her ex? Living in Spain while she was driven to despair.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9186243/Olga-Freemans-friends-reveal-agony-trapped-flat-son-loved-dearly.html

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Purplethrow · 26/01/2021 07:48

Such a tragic story for all involved Sad

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PicsInRed · 26/01/2021 07:48

I remember he was quite harsh about her at the beginning and bangs on about all the love and time he had for his child ... he had quite literally skipped the country on them after selling the family home and leaving her in a 2 bedroom flat with a pubescent child with severe needs.

See also this magnificent guy:
www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/bullying-ryanair-pilot-peter-chilvers-19689416

At least, as a society, we're starting to see these situations for what they are. Those poor women (and their children).

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CaramelCandle · 26/01/2021 07:49

Probably in the minority but no. I feel sorry for that poor boy killed by the one person he should have been able to trust.

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BrumBoo · 26/01/2021 07:50

A terrible act, but i have nothing but sympathy for her. Even when the story broke, I had suspicions that this was the back story. She's not a monster, just a very real example of what happens when women get abandoned by society, and left to struggle in the most unimaginable circumstances.

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LApprentiSorcier · 26/01/2021 07:52

I was very sad when I heard that story. I hope the woman will get the right support with her obviously very severe mental health problems.

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Iloveacurry · 26/01/2021 07:53

I thought this too, poor woman. Where was the father? Living in Spain, saying how much he loved his son. Why live in Spain then?!

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Flaunch · 26/01/2021 07:55

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HallowedGround · 26/01/2021 07:59

Shes obviously someone who was suffering immensely with her mental health, reaching out and getting ignored by those who could help. Sleep deprivation is used as a means of torture and add into that being confined to a flat with severely disabled child, a father living in another country therefore offering zero help even the strongest of people would break.

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WitchesNest · 26/01/2021 08:02

@HallowedGround I’ve not snapped and murdered my children. I’m trapped in a tiny flat with 3 of them, one who has additional needs and the other two who are every bit as demanding. I’ve no help or support from friends, family and have been through several of my own mental health crisis in the last 10 years. But I’ve still not murdered my children.

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lollipoprainbow · 26/01/2021 08:03

@WitchesNest good for you. I for one feel desperately sorry for this poor woman.

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GarlicMonkey · 26/01/2021 08:05

His father should be charged with neglect & failure to protect. Instead he'll get sympathy in this messed up country. Non resident parents need holding to account & forced, if necessary, to shoulder their share of responsibility.

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FellowFlipFlop · 26/01/2021 08:05

No I don't feel sorry for her I feel sorry for her poor son.

No excuse for killing your children

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Skipsurvey · 26/01/2021 08:06

that is a terrible story,
i cannot say poor poor woman though, why is she more deserving than other women who murder their children?
it is an anti lock down piece, i guess it is due to the virus.

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PicsInRed · 26/01/2021 08:07

WitchesNest

I'm not homeless, I don't look at those who are and presume myself to be a better person to whom it could never possibly happen under less favourable family circumstances.

There but for the Grace of God the fortune of birth and circumstance go all of us.

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cormorantes · 26/01/2021 08:10

@FellowFlipFlop

No I don't feel sorry for her I feel sorry for her poor son.

No excuse for killing your children

Why does it have to be either or can you not feel sorry for both?
Not to have any empathy with the situation that mother was in is worrying.
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GreenlandTheMovie · 26/01/2021 08:10

Aside from the awful father, how on earth did the UK reach the situation where local authorities were basically encouraged to withdraw care services for such a prolonged period? This happened in August, long after the initial crisis in march and when restrictions were low.

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pumpkinsoups · 26/01/2021 08:12

What a nasty thread, do we have to be so horrible about another person ?

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HallowedGround · 26/01/2021 08:12

Well done WitchesNest . Do you take the same attitude with all mental illness? This woman reported hearing voices and was depressed for months.

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lollipoprainbow · 26/01/2021 08:12

@GreenlandTheMovie from what I read frequently the local authorities are rubbish at the best at times dealing with care let alone during COVID.

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Oreservoir · 26/01/2021 08:12

@WitchesNest.

Biscuit

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LadyWhistledownthe1st · 26/01/2021 08:14

Poor boy. How absolutely awful.

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itchyfinger · 26/01/2021 08:15

@witchesnest not everyone copes the same in the same situation. This woman clearly wasnt 'evil'. His dad was though. Who skips the country leaving his disabled son? Ah, a man who feels no responsibility.

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Jobseeker19 · 26/01/2021 08:15

I feel guilty for feeling sorry for her as she did kill her child.
But I do feel sorry for her, sleep deprivation and lockdown combined!?

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LadyWhistledownthe1st · 26/01/2021 08:15

@GreenlandTheMovie I’m not aware they were. I have 2 disabled children and none of their support services have stopped since March 2020

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