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Blu13 Sat 16-Jan-21 22:18:57

So me and my partner have been together 4 years we have a 7 month old together and I have a som who’s 8 from a previous relationship and he has one who’s 5 he works 5 days a week and the only 2 he has off are spent with his son. I’m really feeling low at the moment because I feel like I’m getting no support at all and I don’t know what to say to make things change, I love his son also so wouldn’t ever want him to be pushed out but my child goes to his dads on a weekend and I’m left on my own all weekend with our baby and feel like it should be our time together or at least one day anyway, I literally don’t get a day off, I know he doesn’t either because his days off are consumed by our children. I don’t know why but I’m starting to feel resentful towards him, like i get no time to myself what so ever. Am I wrong for feeling this way. I just am feeling like what’s the point, your only days off are spent with your child and I feel like I’m a priority too. I’m just feeling a bit lost really. Do other parents feel this way? Am I being selfish?

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CoffeeAndCaramel Sat 16-Jan-21 22:20:53

Can his son not come to your home and you all spend the time together? X

Tickledtrout Sat 16-Jan-21 22:21:37

Where is he going with his son? Why aren't you and the baby spending time with them too?

Blu13 Sun 17-Jan-21 18:33:36

His son is at our house at 8am on a Thursday until Saturday morning, we never get any time alone at all, obviously our children come first and that’s fine but I just wish sometimes he would prioritise a bit of time for me because I’m absolutely exhausted.

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DrinkRefilled Sun 17-Jan-21 19:27:06

You say there his son leaves on Saturday morning.

Doesn’t that mean you get all weekend with your DH and 7mo then?

DrinkRefilled Sun 17-Jan-21 19:29:42

I think that is what life is like for anyone with kids.
Do you think all of us pack our children away for the weekend? Nope.

The only time me and DH are together without kids is when they are asleep or the rare occasion we book a night out and they go to the DGP.

What you’re experiencing is simply life with children. Nothing specific to his son.

nimbuscloud Sun 17-Jan-21 19:40:30

like i get no time to myself what so ever.
What are his working days?

Blu13 Wed 20-Jan-21 16:32:44

Yes your totally right I think I just need to get a grip ladies. I’m just feeling sorry for myself really. I love our blended family so don’t want it to seem like I have a problem with his son because that’s not the case, he can come whenever he likes. maybe my issue is my partner not being romantic at all and showing me any affection unless it’s him wanting to have sex really. I feel like you do get caught up in family life that maybe we both are forgetting to be romantic. I just feel unloved at the moment and don’t really know how to address that

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