I've always been headstrong, determined, stubborn. In a way it's helped me do well career-wise. However it's not a nice trait when it comes to social relationships because the above has also made me lack tolerance and patience most of the time. And it doesn't only affect the people around me - I get wound up myself when I feel things are not going as they should.
People (usually my OH) telling me not to get mad only makes it worse. I don't like getting mad but how do I stop myself? How do I stop the feeling rather than just the external projection of said madness?
I'd like to 'care less' because some of the things I don't tolerate actually don't even affect me e.g. a friend slacking at work, my OH spending all his savings on a new car (we don't live together so our finances are entirely separate). Or me buying my brother a present and him not taking care of it. Lending someone money and them not doing what they said they would with it.
On a day-to-day basis however I'm cheerful and very positive, have great friends and I'm the one that usually gets us all together, etc.
So how can I turn down my lack of tolerance/patience? Taking a deep breath doesn't work. Thinking 'what's it to me?' doesn't either. So I'm hoping that someone who found themselves in a similar position can share some words of wisdom. Ironically, I run a B2B company that is based on interactions with customers and partners and people like me (I do bite my tongue a lot during conference calls or even when replying to some emails). I want to be nicer to those around me, because there is often no reason for me to get so riled up.
Any help around here? I'd like 2021 to be the year I change this. Thank you.
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Help me become more tolerant
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BarryWhiteIsMyBrother · 13/01/2021 14:06
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