Apart from unfriending them, how do you cope with people like this?
Someone who you cannot possibly have a sensible debate with.
Anything you say is 9 times out of 10 wrong, they know everything about everything - even if they genuinely have no experience in that field, if you ever politely pull them up for something there is a reason they did/said it that isn't their fault, if you've had a bad day and just want to moan and for someone to agree with you and make you feel better they will ALWAYS take the side of the other person or whatever it is.
I often don't bother to start conversation that I know will end this way now. If it does end this way I end up saying 'Ok' or just say nothing but even that is frustrating me now and I've just had to walk away a few times lately.
They do have redeeming features - an awful lot of fun to be around, considerate, supportive when needed.
Also, any ideas why some people are like this?
TIA
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People who are always right and how to deal
LadyOfTheFlowers · 13/01/2021 11:11
I see you've met my Mother? 
It's exhausting people around people who are always right, with my mother I find myself nodding and umming a lot. Some days, if I have the energy, I'll argue back/correct her.
She also has a tendency to make everything about her, so if I say I'm tired, she'll be the most tired person that ever walked the earth.
I'm not sure I'd choose to be friends with someone like this, I love my mom and she does have other redeeming features, but she's hard work.
I am reminded of a former friend who was always right about everything, always had an opinion of what she thought you should do in any situation and always was willing to share it lioudly
She ended up finishing the friendship because she had very strong opinions about the immorality of private schooling and we sent DS1 to a private school. After attacking us roundly for being social climbing tory voting arseholes she finished the friendship.
So there is your solution. Send your kids to private schools.
(Just joking before someone jumps on me).
It's very wearing though.
We call this 'the Elevenerife Principle' in our house - as in if you've been to Tenerife, they've been to Elevenerife.
See also: Misery Olympians.
My former friend was like this. Once she told me I was interesting to have around because I always played devil’s advocate and made contrary statements to keep conversation interesting- err, those are my genuinely held world views!
It was so impossible for her to imagine I genuinely didn’t vote Tory/want the gender pay gap to change/think it’s not ok to imitate a black neighbour in a pseudo-Jamaican accent etc etc.... She really believed I just said this stuff to provoke conversation with her!
We did eventually fall out after I was in the middle of my divorce and couldn’t attend a party... she invited ExH and OW in my place and calmly told me she’d forgiven them both for their affair and I should too It’s funny now but at the time it was all rather surreal...
Thanks for all your replies
So many of your examples are also familiar
The latest one where I walked away was where I was being told I didn't know what I was talking about regarding dogs and everything they said was right - I've owned and successfully trained 5 dogs to be obedient and this person is 1 year into ownership of their first dog. I couldn't even muster a 
face, I just had to leave
I am thinking of so many examples now!
I once went on a beach holiday with a colleague I did not know very well. She regaled me nonstop at how good she was at everything. I then went horseriding on the beach and she came to me and held the stirrup and said 'You need to keep your heels' down. I said thanks and trotted off and went cantering and galloping. When I came back she just said 'You should not canter with horse you do not know' and ignored me for the rest of the weekend.
Pity that. If she had asked I could have told her I used to own horses and was a keen eventer.
Sounds like SIL! A couple of years ago a family BBQ almost descended into chaos because she was adamant that (for the sake of a sum, I can't remember the exact one!) 9x0 was 9...can't even remember how bloody multiplication even came up as a topic but even the kids were explaining to her if you have something 0 times, the answer can only be 0. In the end she declared that "well maths must have changed since I was at school but if the 9 items exist then it can't be zero and that's the end of it." before stropping off with a hot dog to dunk her feet in the paddling pool
@LadyJaye
See also: Misery Olympians.
Or as Shirley Valentine said "if you've been to paradise she's got a season ticket".
If there's one good thing to have come from this pandemic its that I no longer have to see my one of "these people" most days. I did have to mute the WhatsApp group we are in yesterday before I lost it with her there though
Oh dear sounds like me.
I can only speak for myself. It isn't something I can help. Though I do try not to be like this. Only after a conversation do I realise I have behaved this way.
Humor is one of my tools to stop me sounding too know it all. People often think I am just joking when I correct them. Which is probably for the best.
Those that are close to me I think figure my positive qualities out weight this negative. I have a very strong sense of loyalty, am supportive and your life is probably better with me on your side.
Sorry I am a total arse and know it all some times
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