Can’t take anymore of the snoring- any advice?

(63 Posts)
SoggyBiscuitss Tue 05-Jan-21 07:27:56

My DH snores- all night- loudly- and has done for many years.
I poke, prod and even punch him through the night but it makes no difference.

The next morning he will say “oh well I’m not doing it on purpose am I” as though I am supposed to say “oh of course- well that’s ok then” hmm

It’s getting to the point where I am tired all day every day. We have kids and I work full time so sleeping through the day is not an option.

So- to prevent the Daily Mails next headline being “wife beats husband to death in his sleep” do you have any advice? Tales of how you stopped a snorer? Anything!!

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bellagogosdead Tue 05-Jan-21 07:56:19

Dh lost weight and that helped a lot!
But the best thing I did was made a place to sleep for me. This involved buying a chair bed from Ikea, we dont really have the space for it and dh grumbled, but having my own space was brilliant for me. Sleep is so important.

SuperHighway Tue 05-Jan-21 07:58:33

Separate bedrooms saved our marriage.

cheeseismydownfall Tue 05-Jan-21 08:15:15

I think there are two issues here.

The first is the actually snoring itself, which needs to be treated. Your DH needs to go to the GP (not easy right now I know) and in the meantime you need to sleep separately somehow.

The second issue is the attitude of your DH, which is awful. How dare he be so dismissive of the profound negative input this is having on you? He should be doing everything he can to try and address this (seeking medical help, sleeping on the sofa, losing weight if that is relevant etc). What is he like in general, is he usually so selfish?

Reedwarbler Tue 05-Jan-21 08:20:11

Separate rooms. Bliss!

SusieBugandMe Tue 05-Jan-21 08:21:52

Proper moulded earplugs

He needs to lose weight

Is it worse if he’s been drinking?

TartanLassie Tue 05-Jan-21 08:39:47

I snore! God knows why I'm a slim wee thing! I used to just snore when I was drunk but it looks like I snore badly all the time now.

I don't know I snore, I'm single, but was waking up with terrible headaches and sore throats. So I downloaded a snore app. Jeeezus fucking wept, I was off the scale.

Your score is supposed to be 20, mine was 131!!!!!

I bought a mouth thing, not that uncomfortable and quite cheap. It dropped my score right down to 21

I've attached the pics as proof.

I bought the mouth thing off Amazon, can post a link if you want. I sometimes wake with it in my hand, but other than that my headaches have gone, and my throat isn't as sore.


TartanLassie Tue 05-Jan-21 08:43:07

Ah just realised the "after" pic is only 2 hours worth of sleep. Here's another longer own.

FippertyGibbett Tue 05-Jan-21 08:44:36

Separate bedrooms.

Justgivemewine Tue 05-Jan-21 08:49:53

I can also recommend the mouth guard. Dh uses one and it’s made a huge difference in quality of sleep for both of us.

Sorry @TartanLassie but I had to laugh at ‘Epic’ as a catagory of loudness 😆

WeAllHaveWings Tue 05-Jan-21 08:52:15

Separate bedrooms here too. Dh has a single bed in the box room, his clothes and everything else are in "our" room.

(and I can still sometimes hear him through the walls!)

TartanLassie Tue 05-Jan-21 08:53:55

@Justgivemewine haha your post made me laugh too. Although having listened to the snoring (the app records the loudest snores) I can proudly tell you it is indeed epic!!

And maybe that is why I'm single ....

Stepintochristmas Tue 05-Jan-21 09:00:32

Why are you choosing to share a bed? There is a very, very easy solution here. I don’t know why women put up with snoring for years when they simply don’t need to. Sleep is very important.

userxx Tue 05-Jan-21 09:01:36

Can someone post a link to the mouth guard or recommend a good builder to build me an extra bedroom 😞

Justgivemewine Tue 05-Jan-21 09:40:12


CatsMother66 Tue 05-Jan-21 09:45:45

I don’t think there are solutions, we tried many over the years. Even with ear plugs I could feel vibrations through the pillow. It’s the worst sound in the world and I would get really tired and angry.
Separate bedrooms are the only answer.
Holidays are a problem now. When I should look relaxed and chilled, my holiday snaps look like I haven’t slept for weeks because we have to share a room!

Moonmelodies Tue 05-Jan-21 09:48:23

Separate houses.

Hoppinggreen Tue 05-Jan-21 09:50:29

Can I have the link to the mouth thing too please?

TartanLassie Tue 05-Jan-21 12:23:25

This is what I used. Honesty really really works!!

AmberItsACertainty Tue 05-Jan-21 13:20:28

I've been there and I would honestly LTB. I'll never be with a snorer again. Sounds dramatic I know, but I see it now as a sign of selfishness. You're kept awake by his snoring, your health is being affected, but that's supposed to be your problem? Even though you're not the one able to do anything about the sound because it's being caused by his body...yeh fuck that! Especially when I read that it's things like drinking, smoking, overweight or health problems that can be treated which causes it. So things the snorer could choose to do something about, but won't.

AmberItsACertainty Tue 05-Jan-21 13:22:57


Separate houses.

Totally! My ex snored so loudly it could be heard throughout the house.

Shehasadiamondinthesky Tue 05-Jan-21 13:23:59

Yes, tell him he will lose his drivers licence. I went to my GP and was referred for my snoring which I didn't think was too bad and I was one point below having my drivers licence removed (sleep apnoea). I now have to have a cpap machine and I am monitored by the hospital regularly, if I don't comply I'll lose my licence and my NHS job.
When you have sleep apnoea you can and do fall asleep at the wheel for a couple of seconds and that's all it takes to crash.

Iwantacookie Tue 05-Jan-21 13:24:31

Can someone recommend a good snore app please dp snoring has got worse recently he is overweight but struggles with exercise because hes disabled. I'm hoping by showing him his snoring is extreme he will ring the drs.

PlanDeRaccordement Tue 05-Jan-21 13:31:25

My DH is a bad snorer. He’s been to the doctor and been sleep studied, lost weight, had nose surgery and tried a mouth guard. He isn’t a drinker or smoker. But still snores very loudly. When we go camping, people in other pitches complain.

Put up with it for years because he was trying everything under the sun and nothing worked. He wasn’t getting rest because he’d be lying there afraid to fall asleep and snore and keep me up. Also he’d fall asleep and wake himself up with his own snoring. I was getting no sleep at all and was suffering from sleep loss.

So, we decided on separate bedrooms and really it has been awesome. We wish we had done it ages ago. We converted our dining room to a large bedroom for one teen DC, moved them downstairs and then converted their old bedroom to a larger home office and the old home office room became DHs bedroom. So much happier now.

Alonelonelyloner Tue 05-Jan-21 13:41:06

Not doing something about it is incredibly selfish of him OP. My DP had bad snoring and after our first night together he immediately made appointments. After a couple of months of appointments and 2 separate Nights in a sleep lab, he got a CPAP machine and it's like a whole different world.
If your man won't sort this you need to either threaten to LTB or sleep separately.

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