Compassionate leave

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TheoriginalLEM Sun 03-Jan-21 11:39:14

My mum died before Christmas, i was of course told to take as much time as i need. I tested positive for covid the next day so was off for just over ten days, an extra day was because i still unwell. My employer was not impressed and as such, i have returned to work.

My question really is, was that compassionate leave or sick leave and is there a difference? I had only one week sick pay left so from a financial point of view im stuffed - cant be helped.

I believe others have been given one week compassionate leave. But will i have been considered to have already taken it ?

I am not trying to milk it and get further time off (despite being beyond exhausted from covid) but i have to clesr my mums house and i wont have the luxury of time as its council. Ive not told them yet as im trying to buy myself some time. I need the time to clear it as there is so much stuff and its just me really, no one to help.

Ive arranged the funeral for my day off so its not like im trying to get time. Id rather be at work actually.

Just want to know where i stand. My line manager has indicated i will need to do it at weekends, my concern is that ill only be given limited time to clear it and in fairness that may not have occured to her but also i dont want to drag it out, i cant - my mh is not good at the best of times.

I would have made a start over Christmas but i was isolating and could barely get from my bed to the toilet without staggering like a drunk!

I will take annual leave if i cant get compassionate leave although i suspect this may be refused as we are short staffed.

What can i do? Im so stressed

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LIZS Sun 03-Jan-21 11:42:03

Take Christmas as compassionate. Sick leave will be limited and you never know if you will need it again.

ADMum20 Sun 03-Jan-21 11:42:21

Where I work, compassionate leave is limited to 3 days and is given in place of the qualifying period for sickness (we don’t get company sick pay for the first 3 days of sickness).

So, we’re given compassionate to ensure we’re paid in full.

You’ll need to check your contract to see what is in place for you.

We wouldn’t get compassionate for house clearances I’m afraid, and would need to take annual leave.

I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time OP and hope you feel better soon.

RockNRollNerd Sun 03-Jan-21 11:46:16

Sorry for your loss. In practical terms can you make the house clearance easier on yourself. When we’ve been in this situation we’ve taken a day to get anything we would want to keep from the house and then just paid a clearance company to come in and empty the house. Depending on the amount of stuff and it’s value it will cost some money but may well be cheaper than the most wages and rent.

TheoriginalLEM Sun 03-Jan-21 12:06:50

Of course ill take hpliday if i have to but they wonr give it sad

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TheoriginalLEM Sun 03-Jan-21 12:07:19

Cant afford house clearance

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ADMum20 Fri 08-Jan-21 12:35:16

Did you manage to get sorted @TheoriginalLEM


Weenurse Fri 08-Jan-21 12:39:22

We also get compassionate leave of 2 days, comes off sick leave allowance. so if you run out of sick leave, you are out of paid compassionate leave.

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