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My dd started spgs recently at sixth form, and I’ve noticed a massive shift in her behaviour. She’s become sullen, argumentative and hangs out at night with the youths. I know she is keeping secrets and I think it must correspond w her recent spgs joining. She keeps referring to tobacco as ‘baccy’ and layers as much jewellery as she can! I miss when my daughter didn’t look like britney spears 2.0 and didn’t slather on heavy eyeliner every day. is it the school? I have heard many rumours of the awfulness of the school! plz help
It's not the school.
It is the function of 16/17 year olds to naturally gravitate towards whatever trend in society/culture will be most distressing to their parents. She would be doing this, or some barely distinguishable version of it, at any other school too. She will grow out of it. Make sure she knows that you love her and are there for her no matter what.
I thought sullen behaviour kicked in around 13. If only now you have been lucky! That said I would worry re a dramatic change in mood or behaviour about drugs or depression. Jewellery and make up, who cares?