I am speaking to my absent father for the first time in over 10 years on the phone this evening. he says it is time to answer questions.
last time we spoke was also the first and only time we met. I was 18.
I found my biological brother recently on social media which is what has lead to absent father wanting this conversation as biological brother has been asking him questions.
absent father will most likely say (because this is the story I have already been told and what he alluded when we met) that he felt he was too young to be a dad and that he was having the time of his life and that him and my mum weren't a couple. basically, he just didnt want to be a dad. he was 24 for context so hardly a youngster in my opinion but there you go.
I dont know how I feel or what to say. i dont know whether to be angry or understanding. would you be angry? tell him how it felt growing up without a father? how I honestly feel about his being too young excuse? can you ever make up nearly 30 years? I have children now too so he is a grandad.
anyone else here been in a situation with an absent father? or any absent relatives and managed to mend the relationship?
thanks!
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tartanbow · 21/12/2020 15:52
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