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Should this be reported?

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mustgetabackbone · 19/12/2020 21:54

Might be none of my business but has left me feeling a bit angry!

A mum I know (in passing, not friendly with) is a pupil support worker at a local school.
I have just come across a horrible racist video posted online in a community group by her husband.
I think it’s horribly irresponsible of him to post it (obviously!) but even more so due to his wife’s job.
Should I do anything or just ignore and avoid the husband?

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Annoymou5e · 19/12/2020 22:05

Who are you reporting it too?

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Annoymou5e · 19/12/2020 22:06

And is she in the video/commented on it etc?

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Crinkle77 · 19/12/2020 22:10

You can report to the social media platform and ask them to remove it but the wife can't be held responsible for her husband's comments.

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DontBeShelfish · 19/12/2020 22:10

She might be absolutely mortified that he's posted it.

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StoneColdBitch · 19/12/2020 22:16

Why on earth are you holding her accountable for her husband's views? Her employer can't control what her husband says. As PPs have said, she may be mortified. If the content is racist, by all means report him to the police.

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Nicknacky · 19/12/2020 22:40

Who are you reporting it to?

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LadyLazaruss · 19/12/2020 22:41

So you're effectively going to report her? For something she hasn't done?

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sheworkshardforthemoney · 19/12/2020 22:56

I did safeguarding recently and some personal/ home/ social media stuff IS reportable under safeguarding/ prevent (terrorism/ hate groups) but this isn't her it's her husband

Raise it as safeguarding if you want. There is no 'wrong' safeguarding reporting if it's not worth pursuing then they won't take it further

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ElizaLaLa · 19/12/2020 22:58

What is wrong in your life op?

Leave the woman alone and mind your own business.

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DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 19/12/2020 22:59

Report the video, by all means, you seem to want to report the wife though, which would be ridiculous.

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OrigamiOwl · 19/12/2020 23:11

The wife isn't responsible for her husband's posts...

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TheSilentStars · 19/12/2020 23:16

@sheworkshardforthemoney

I did safeguarding recently and some personal/ home/ social media stuff IS reportable under safeguarding/ prevent (terrorism/ hate groups) but this isn't her it's her husband

Raise it as safeguarding if you want. There is no 'wrong' safeguarding reporting if it's not worth pursuing then they won't take it further

Of course personal/home stuff can come under safeguarding. But to whom would the OP report? This wouldn't come under school safeguarding (for minors)
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Annoymou5e · 20/12/2020 00:03

how this would come under the Prevent strategy 🤣

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Goatscheesewithhoney · 20/12/2020 00:03

I’d mention it to the school, rightly or wrongly. As I think she must be racist too, to stay married to someone like that. The school could just be aware of the information .

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Goatscheesewithhoney · 20/12/2020 00:05

You’d raise it with the school if you found our her partner was sharing images of child sexual abuse, not just say “well it’s not her”.

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Annoymou5e · 20/12/2020 00:10

@Goatscheesewithhoney

You’d raise it with the school if you found our her partner was sharing images of child sexual abuse, not just say “well it’s not her”.

So a husband sharing a video of say Tommy Robinson talking nonsense, is the same as someone participating in the distribution of child pornography? Really...
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Goatscheesewithhoney · 20/12/2020 00:14

It’s not the same. However, I would not want her near my children as I’d think, on the balance of probability, that she was racist too and that it could be a safeguarding issue. So I would pass it to the safeguarding lead and leave it with them.

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Annoymou5e · 20/12/2020 00:15

@Goatscheesewithhoney

It’s not the same. However, I would not want her near my children as I’d think, on the balance of probability, that she was racist too and that it could be a safeguarding issue. So I would pass it to the safeguarding lead and leave it with them.

So, if someone’s husband committed a robbery on the balance of probabilities the wife must also be a robber?
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Annoymou5e · 20/12/2020 00:16

And if a husband hits his wife she must also be violent... on the balance of probabilities .. interesting view point you have there.

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GlummyMcGlummerson · 20/12/2020 00:17

YABU she isn't guilty by association

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WorraLiberty · 20/12/2020 00:18

@Goatscheesewithhoney

It’s not the same. However, I would not want her near my children as I’d think, on the balance of probability, that she was racist too and that it could be a safeguarding issue. So I would pass it to the safeguarding lead and leave it with them.

That's disgusting.

Guilt by association in your kangaroo court?
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Charcutaria · 20/12/2020 00:18

So a husband sharing a video of say Tommy Robinson talking nonsense, is the same as someone participating in the distribution of child pornography? Really
It's not child pornography, it's sexual abuse of children. It's rape and sexual abuse of a child NOT pornography.

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Goatscheesewithhoney · 20/12/2020 00:22

I didn’t say my opinion was right or wrong but that is what I’d do, based on my gut feeling - I’d leave it with the safeguarding lead, whether they thought I was bonkers or not and leave it for them to decide.

I work in a service for vulnerable people, not children though, but if the husband if a staff member was posting stuff like that then I’d want to know, and I would suggest to them they did not have their relationship set to “public” on social media, so that they were not associated with that person on social media, in case one of the people who use or service saw it. We have a social media policy and staff are asked to make their social media completely private/to name change anyway, so I would focus on their public link to that person.

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notangelinajolie · 20/12/2020 00:22

Why do you want to report her for something he has done?
That's wierd.

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HeddaGarbled · 20/12/2020 00:25

I would report the post as offensive and possibly illegal to the administrators of the community group. His wife’s job is irrelevant, IMO, and you should stay well away from implicating or involving her.

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