Could you marry for money ?

(145 Posts)
Lardlizard Sat 19-Dec-20 12:41:07

?

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SenorFrog Sat 19-Dec-20 12:44:32

I didn't but I could, there'd have to be some level of affection though.

OnlyFoolsnMothers Sat 19-Dec-20 12:45:20

Assuming not hideous or abusive, yes I could! In fact I wish I had grin

AnneLovesGilbert Sat 19-Dec-20 12:45:37

No

chipsandpeas Sat 19-Dec-20 12:46:59

i could as long as i liked the person and hes not abusive in any way

workingfortheclampdown Sat 19-Dec-20 12:47:24

In this day and age (as opposed to say Victorian times), would it not be easier to throw everything into making your own money instead? I mean, I appreciate it's not exactly straightforward but even starting from poverty it still seems easier than finding someone with a lot of money who wants to marry you. The chances that you're marrying an abusive arse seem quite high.

So no. I'd rather make my own luckily I don't have huge expectations

DailyPotion Sat 19-Dec-20 12:47:30

It will be an unpopular view but I think most people marry for money to some extent. They'll all say they loved him but his earning power/career prospects will have been part of the attraction.

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DillonPanthersTexas Sat 19-Dec-20 12:50:37

A few of my friends have. They married into the classic public school old money families. I'm not entirely convinced that they are really happy despite the monied lifestyle but each to their own.

JustLikeStitch Sat 19-Dec-20 12:51:42

Nope, I’d rather earn my own money than sponge off someone else.

Suzi888 Sat 19-Dec-20 12:52:36

How much money?grin lol

Scr00gy Sat 19-Dec-20 12:52:57

I don't think anyone worth marrying for money would be interested in a peasant like me wink

nevereverplease Sat 19-Dec-20 12:54:30

I think to some extent and many people do this - though they wouldn't admit.

I don't see the issue, I actually think smart move - would I rather marry a millionaire that I was averagely attracted to or a bin man I fancied the pants off - sorry but millionaire all day long. However - I am more about personality so I wouldn't compromise on that money or not.

Life is hard, and having someone able to provide a good standard of living is something to value.

HOWEVER would I ever rely on a man with money? Never in a million years. There's a difference between marrying for money and being reliant on marrying for money. If you're the latter then that's an issue IMO.

MrsWooster Sat 19-Dec-20 12:55:30

If it was mutual, contractual -ie both sides knew the score, then quite possibly-I’m bringing what I bring, he brings what he brings. I suspect a LOT of very successful marriages are based on this. I’d rather fall in love tho...

SantasBritchesSpelleas Sat 19-Dec-20 12:56:34

No - I'd hate not to be at least an equal earner in the marriage. I wouldn't want to feel I was spending someone else's money. I prefer to be able to spend as I please without feeling beholden to anyone.

WankPuffins Sat 19-Dec-20 12:56:39

Yes.

Please send someone my way.

justgeton Sat 19-Dec-20 12:57:40

If he had a heart condition 😉

Valkadin Sat 19-Dec-20 13:00:47

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JayeAshe Sat 19-Dec-20 13:01:53

No. Many years ago I sort-of lived with someone who was a much higher earner, I liked and respected him, but the gilded-cage feeling was horrible and I moved out to live alone on my own income.

Pippin2028 Sat 19-Dec-20 13:03:54

I think it definitely help, someone with good money and prospects is more attractive in general. Although I do think you should never rely on anyone and take anything as 100%. Some people use money as a way to control you or use it as the upper hand which will just cause misery for you in general. At the same time lack of money can also cause misery.

happymummy12345 Sat 19-Dec-20 13:06:14

No because I'm not a goldgigger and would only marry for love. I believe in the tradition meaning of marriage that it is about love, not a contract or security if anything was to happen. I hate that view of marrying for financial protection or security. You should marry for love only.
I was a student and my husband was on minimum wage when we got married. Now I'm a SAHM and he earns just above minimum wage. So it was never about money. We both knew we'd probably never have a lot, but we have each other and that is what matters most and is most important to us

DillonPanthersTexas Sat 19-Dec-20 13:06:43

Life is hard, and having someone able to provide a good standard of living is something to value

And what would you bring to the table?

MacbookHo Sat 19-Dec-20 13:08:30

I read once that “if you marry for money, you earn every penny”.

My Dad was a high earner. Somehow, though, I’ve ended up marrying two very low-achievers. I actually ditched one lovely banker to marry a dope-smoking waster. I split from him luckily, but my second DH is a total sweetheart but not a mover or shaker.

If I could have my time over, I’d have kids with a rich man.

MondeoFan Sat 19-Dec-20 13:09:49

Money has never come into it for me. I've dated poor men and well off men. I married a poor man. It didn't work out as he was aggressive towards me and other people too. He'd have still been aggressive rich or poor.
You have to marry for the person surely. Plus anything can happen to someone's job or wealth at anytime. Take Covid for an example.

Love51 Sat 19-Dec-20 13:16:17

I couldn't. I don't move in the right circles to meet a rich man / woman.

I married for babies. Even as a teenager I wouldn't have slept with a man (boy?) I didn't think would make a good father.

DailyPotion Sat 19-Dec-20 13:27:19

I believe in the tradition meaning of marriage that it is about love, not a contract or security if anything was to happen.

The "traditional" purpose of marriage is all about security

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