My ds (16) has had a malicious allegation made about him by another student at school. He wasn't there when it was made, was not told the content, and school called SS. He has Autism, clinical Anxiety and SEN.
I got a quick call from SS that day (Tues) to say someone would call me on Weds. I got the call on Friday afternoon. Yesterday a SW came to the house for 3.5 hours. Spoke to me mostly, but both kids at end of it (allegation involves ds 'feeling guilty about touching dd 5 years ago' - rubbish). SW did a 'triangle' of worries, hopes dreams exercise with them. Looked at their bedrooms. Spoke to Ds and asked him many questions. Ds shaking (his Anxiety is so severe he has uncontrolled motor activity) and was able to reply to say he had never behaved wrongly with his sister or any girl but he was worried, because he worries about everything. SS not happy to leave it at that and said he would be back next week, and back to School in New year too. Ds is terrified.
His Caamhs worker today told me that she thinks he is on 'high alert' for suicide risk (he took an overdose in Aug) there is a long history of the accuser bullying him and making up allegations to school (that he ran away, that he was going to kill himself - months before he tried) - school have been hopeless.
My Qu is (sorry for details) - can i insist that our family lawyer is present at any further questioning? I cannot get hold of an Advocate from caahms or LEA at short notice (SS want to come back Friday) and I dont' want him to be alone. Apart from anything else he has auditory processing disorder and cant understand the SW accent?
I think he needs someone in his corner due to his ASD and Anxiety. The family lawyer was recommended by a fellow parent with an autistic ds with tourettes and she is really good.
SW are saying that I can be with him, but until they can Qu him on his own they cant move forward with dismissing anything. So it's a catch 22 as they want to come back before I can arrange any other Advocate but the lawyer but I don't want them to see him with me there as they can't 'clear him' like that and its just an extra visit. I am not trying to be obstructive in any way and I certainly don't want them to think I am but I am worried about his MH in all this.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Join the discussion and meet other Mumsnetters on our free online chat forum.
Chat
URGENT - any Social Workers out there please?
16 replies
52andblue · 16/12/2020 20:52
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.