Posting here for traffic as MH and Addiction boards pretty quiet.
SiL is an alcoholic with several MH diagnoses.
DB rightly or wrongly has tried to contain the situation for many years to protect the family.
They live 3 hours away and SiL has so controlled who DB speaks to that the only people around him now is SiL's family.
DB had to move himself and the DC out of the family home approx 4 weeks ago as SiL is now so disruptive and volatile. She is now drunk 24/7 lurching from binge to binge. Police and ambulances involved several times but she sobers up and is sent home.
SiL has refused all help and has refused to leave the family home.
The only place DB has to stay is with his in-laws and they are part of the problem. Complete denial about how serious the situation is.
DB has now had a breaks down himself and is staying with me but needs to gather strength at some point to get back to his DC.
He is utterly trapped. He goes back to in-laws to be with DC but get zero emotional support and sucked back into perpetuating the situation. I fear this will tip him over the edge.
Or
Stay here to try and regain mental strength but potentially exacerbate the situation by being away and put his relationship/rights with DC at risk.
I just don't know what to do. He has a hearing in Tuesday (formalising court order for DC to reside temporarily with in-laws) and will have representation but has so many questions/concerns. Yet he is petrified of alienating in-laws because they are providing a roof over his head.
Such a mess and he is in such a dark place as can see no way out.
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How to help DB and DC escape alcoholic wife
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pinkiepromise123 · 29/11/2020 17:31
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