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Properly shaken up - really hurt (intentionally) whilst shopping

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Vinosaurus Sat 21-Nov-20 18:00:43

I was in Tesco about an hour ago - it was pretty busy but people all had masks on and were trying their best in the main to keep their distance ... as was I.

I don't really know what happened exactly, or why he did it, but I was picking up some fromage frais - nobody particularly close by - and I suddenly got shoved from behind. Turned my head to be presented with a alpha male type who lifted his arm (trying to explain that this was very much intentional and meant to hurt) and elbowed me in the back of the ribs with some real force. It was enough to wind me and cause me some real pain.

He walked off pretty briskly but squared up to me (from a distance) when I shouted after him "what the hell do do you think you're doing? You're an idiot!" (not my finest moment and probably very unwise but I was so shocked), although I think he thought better of it when he realised how many people were around. I was walking away by then, trying to calm myself down (had horrid heart palpitations - probably due to the adrenaline!) and just get away from the situation.

A couple of women (separately) caught up to me to see if I was ok/say they'd seen what happened/congratulate me on pulling him up on it - which was very kind, but I am still super tearful and shaken up. I'm a 42 yr old woman, FFS, really need to get a grip, have a glass of wine and forget about it.

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SleepySheepy Sat 21-Nov-20 18:03:06

You've been assaulted, you need to report it to the police OP.
I'm so sorry you encountered such a twat

WhereverIGoddamnLike Sat 21-Nov-20 18:03:31

Didnt you go straight to the security stand at the front and request that they call the police as you had been assaulted?

OverTheRainbow88 Sat 21-Nov-20 18:04:03

Oh my that’s horrible.

I would call the supermarket and ask them to send the CCTV to the police as you were assaulted

HoneysuckIejasmine Sat 21-Nov-20 18:04:12

You don't need to get a grip, you need to make a police report.

PatchworkElmer Sat 21-Nov-20 18:04:25

I think I would’ve reported that, tbh.

Flaunch Sat 21-Nov-20 18:04:51

Yes you need to contact the police. You’ve been assaulted. What an arsehole!

OneEpisode Sat 21-Nov-20 18:05:19

flowers for you. How shocking. Hope you have someone IRL to help you feel safe.
Do you feel able to contact Tesco to see if they have CCTV/contact details from the till?

totalburnout Sat 21-Nov-20 18:05:26

I'm so sorry op. You have been assaulted, I wish you spoke to security and called the police over?

missyB1 Sat 21-Nov-20 18:05:31

You should really have reported this immediately to security. I’m so sorry this happened to you, it was a nasty incident.

MumsDirtyTeaTowel Sat 21-Nov-20 18:06:10

Should have reported the assault to security or a member of staff. Can understand it's hard to think straight in that sort of situation though.

goldielockdown2 Sat 21-Nov-20 18:06:21

Report to police. Poor you, that's horrible.

Nosnogginginthekitchen Sat 21-Nov-20 18:06:59

Are you ok? This sounds very frightening and upsetting. Please call the police

Michaelbaubles Sat 21-Nov-20 18:07:10

Poor you, OP, that sounds horrible.

I don’t think in that situation I’d have had the presence of mind to think about what I should have done so there’s not much point telling OP how she should have acted afterwards. It’s amazing how frazzled and shaken up you get by these events and it’s easy to say “why didn’t you do XYZ” but not so easy to actually think to do them at the time.

MsTSwift Sat 21-Nov-20 18:07:15

Report to the police. You were assaulted by a stranger no wonder you are shaken up anyone would be. Inform the shop soon so they can keep their cctv. How awful.

Burnthurst187 Sat 21-Nov-20 18:07:38

Contact Tesco and they will hopefully have this on cctv, also ring 101 police non emergency and log it

This was an assault

WindblowingSW Sat 21-Nov-20 18:08:35

Report to police and contact the supermarket and ask for the CCTV -that's assault.

MiniMum97 Sat 21-Nov-20 18:08:51

Oh my gosh that's awful. You don't need to get over it. You need to report it to Tesco and the police. They should have it on cctv

You should have gone straight up security at the time. Obviously a bit late now but for future reference that's what you should do in this circumstance. Or call the police immediately. You do not have to put up with being physically assaulted.I am struggling to understand why you just went home and think you need to just get over it?!?

MiniMum97 Sat 21-Nov-20 18:09:51

For clarity, I am not saying it's too late to report it now. It isn't. You should absolutely report it.

Vinosaurus Sat 21-Nov-20 18:10:48

Thank you all, DH is home from work now and being lovely.

I know I probably should, and was thinking "should I?" when I was still there, but then was thinking ... "was it my fault, did I do something wrong?" Not that it would have deserved being treated like that even if I had. To be honest I just wanted to get out of there.

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WhereverIGoddamnLike Sat 21-Nov-20 18:11:01

It's a bit late to report now. They wont be able to track down the women who saw it, the guy is long gone so will be hard to identify. The security staff could have done that at the time.

AnonyBonnie Sat 21-Nov-20 18:11:13

Um ring the police, get supermarket cctv and press charges!!!!

ArosGartref Sat 21-Nov-20 18:11:29

Tbf, OP was probably in shock but I agree that when she's calmed down she needs to speak with Tesco and the police.

AnonyBonnie Sat 21-Nov-20 18:12:06

It's never too late to report OP smile

Mrsmorton Sat 21-Nov-20 18:12:27


Didnt you go straight to the security stand at the front and request that they call the police as you had been assaulted?

Siri, what does supercilious mean?

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