I was wondering if anyone could help me navigate some sensible plans for my financial future. I feel pretty clueless about it, which annoys me, and don’t really have any family or friends who are particularly knowledgeable about this stuff either so would very much appreciate some non-biased advice.
So, I’m a divorcee with 2 children, nearly 9 and 5. The divorce was resolved pretty amicably, we sold the family home (in London), which meant I was able to afford to buy outright a 3 bed terraced house outside of London. Exh is a good earner so I receive a decent amount of child maintenance.
I have recently become engaged to my new partner, also a divorcee with 2 children. His children stay 1 night a week and every other weekend. Obviously I would not be dreaming about getting married again unless I thought this was really it this time but equally I’m not a complete fantasist and know there can be unforeseen things that come up in the future.
So I have two things I need to consider the implications of- getting married (not til 2022) and buying a house together.
We would like to move to a bigger house in the near future since both my and his children are now sharing a room with a set of bunks each. My house is currently worth about £300k. The type of house we need would probably be about £450-500k.
My fiancé doesn’t own a property but is earning well and able to save about £4-5k/month.
The options I see buying a house together are waiting for him to save a decent amount and:
*Buying outright and getting something written up about the proportion of the house that we each own
*putting equal amounts in, for example £150k and then him taking out a mortgage solely in his name on the shortfall. I could then invest the remaining money in a flat for example, which could provide an income
Incidentally I am still a sahm, my fiancé is fully in support of this. The only thing I worry about in terms of this is that I have no plan for my pension and only actually worked for 5 years before having children so I wonder if the second option would be good in terms of providing an income for me in older age?
I think my two children will need to be having separate rooms within a couple of years since my older is a boy and younger a girl.
I also don’t really know what the best way of addressing all these issues is. Should we get a prenup written? Should we just get something written about our future house?
If anyone has any advice at all it would be gratefully received!
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Can anyone help me figure out my financial future as a divorcee remarrying?
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Otterspotter · 21/11/2020 11:09
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