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Whitty comeback for being childless?

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Elouera Wed 18-Nov-20 21:05:15

DH & I have bought a large house needing renovations to live in ourselves. People walking past are always commenting, asking questions and generally wishing us well. One women asked where the babies are? I told her we dont have children. She was adament she saw a push chair on the property, asked why I denied it and didnt want to talk about them!!! I said again that we dont have children and things just havent worked out in that regard.

We have TTC 10yrs and had my 3rd MC a few months ago.

Other than saying F£@K off, its none of your buisiness, what other things would/do you say in these circumstances?

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Hotcuppatea Wed 18-Nov-20 21:07:00

People can be so fucking intrusive and insensitive.

Are you sure you can't just tell them to fuck off?

RandomMess Wed 18-Nov-20 21:07:55

Ask them "How's your sex life?"

Or the other one is
"Trying for 10'years and multiple miscarriages aren't something I discuss with strangers!"


Chipsandcheese49 Wed 18-Nov-20 21:09:53

“Gosh, you must be so brave to ask that question.. I’m always worried I’m sticking my nose in, you never really know what people are going through, do you?”

That’s the line I would trot out innocently whilst seething with rage on the inside!

We tried for 7+ years and have recently gone through the adoption process- I can’t tell you how many sleepless nights I had over people’s snide comments- in hindsight I wish I’d told them it was none of their business but that’s easier said than done.

mineofuselessinformation Wed 18-Nov-20 21:11:10

'That's a very personal question, isn't it?'
Said with a broad (fake) smile.
Sorry you have to hear it.

randomsabreuse Wed 18-Nov-20 21:12:56

Was it Absolutely Fabulous where a character professed to prefer cream carpets to children?

Svelteinmydreams Wed 18-Nov-20 21:13:44

I just say ‘ we’ve not been blessed’

It’s not witty but generally embarrasses them.

Pollynextdoor Wed 18-Nov-20 21:16:54

People can be so insensitive. I never forget we had workmen in and one of them, an older guy, was telling me off for letting my child be an only while I was standing talking to him actually in the middle of my third miscarriage trying for a sibling for my sonsad

personwifemum Wed 18-Nov-20 21:21:51

@Pollynextdoor thanks so sorry to hear that. If people only knew.

Tarquinthecat Wed 18-Nov-20 21:27:24

I would smile broadly and say breezily that you are "happilty child-free". They can't argue with that and you keep your personal tragedy to yourself and not being bandied about by the locals.

Tarquinthecat Wed 18-Nov-20 21:28:31


Togepi Wed 18-Nov-20 21:30:06

Thought this was going to be about Chris Whitty grin

Fanofromanticseries Wed 18-Nov-20 21:30:37

For s moment I thought this was a thread about Chris Whitty lol

Crinkle77 Wed 18-Nov-20 21:34:11

You don't need a witty come back and you don't have to explain yourself. She sounds like a weirdo.

AriesTheRam Wed 18-Nov-20 21:34:55

Just say they're locked in a cupboard we only let them out at weekends

bellagogosdead Wed 18-Nov-20 21:36:03


Thought this was going to be about Chris Whitty grin

Me too.grinconfused

Sleazeyjet Wed 18-Nov-20 21:36:22

Me three 😂

RishiMcRichface Wed 18-Nov-20 21:38:25

I thought this was about Chris Whitty at first.
I'd say the woman who thought she saw a pushchair sounds like a loony. Give her a bland smile and claim you heard the phone going, then whizz away.

IHeartHounds Wed 18-Nov-20 21:40:01

I wouldn't be rude to passersby stopping to chat to you. If anyone asks if you have children just say 'no.'

WildRosie Wed 18-Nov-20 21:43:38

Point them in the direction of the pavement and tell them to keep walking. Faster.

PurpleDaisies Wed 18-Nov-20 21:44:06

Yes there’s a typo, but given the subject matter, was it really necessary to point it out? hmm

I go for the “that’s a very personal question” followed by the death stare. It totally inappropriate for people to behave like that.

SonjaMorgan Wed 18-Nov-20 21:46:15

I would be honest and tell them you can't have children after years of heartbreak and trying. Teach the insensitive idiots and lesson and make them feel awful.

PurpleDaisies Wed 18-Nov-20 21:47:02


I would be honest and tell them you can't have children after years of heartbreak and trying. Teach the insensitive idiots and lesson and make them feel awful.

No one is entitled to that personal information.
Do you know how hard that is to say out loud?

CurlsandCurves Wed 18-Nov-20 21:47:20

Your first answer, we don’t have children, was enough.
Stick with that.

Its nobody’s business beyond that.

MeowMeowLikeACow Wed 18-Nov-20 21:48:04

"Oh we're just about to pop upstairs to make one, would you like to join us?"

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