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Is @ mentioning someone on a thread now not the done thing?

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Jinglebellissimo Tue 17-Nov-20 20:36:45

Noticed people being “told off” for @ mentioning other posters on threads.
I’ve been on MN for probably ten years and never noticed anyone complaining but seen it twice today.

Was it never the done thing? Is this a new issue? Do we not mention who we reply to anymore?

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DelphineWalsh Tue 17-Nov-20 20:37:16

Why are they complaining?

Waxonwaxoff0 Tue 17-Nov-20 20:38:47

I always @ people. Are we not supposed to? I thought that was the whole point of the function!

DaphneFanshaw Tue 17-Nov-20 20:38:55

I think on MN, there will always be someone telling someone off for something.

Jinglebellissimo Tue 17-Nov-20 20:39:13

Not sure -it wasn’t aimed at me - but didn’t seem to be in a bun fight situation. More one person being told “it’s irritating” and can’t remember on the other one.

I’ve always used it - but I suppose now there’s “quote”.

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DaphneFanshaw Tue 17-Nov-20 20:40:02

I have only just started suing the @ function.
I still like the old fashioned way or shortening a posters name, it’s friendlier.

Jinglebellissimo Tue 17-Nov-20 20:40:31

@Waxonwaxoff0 (see what I did there)... so did I. It’s that I’ve literally seen it mentioned twice in one day so got me wondering.

Personally I think you’re more likely to cause offence if you don’t use it

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BlindedByTheWork Tue 17-Nov-20 20:40:40

It’s because of the ridiculously annoying new notification “feature”

CountFosco Tue 17-Nov-20 20:41:10

They are complaining because they get an email alert and their phone beeps at them. Is what you have to say so important that it needs to disturb their day?

DaphneFanshaw Tue 17-Nov-20 20:41:12

Ahhh, was about to say I wonder if it’s anything to do with that.

Jinglebellissimo Tue 17-Nov-20 20:41:37

But the notification feature bloody comes up even if someone just comments on a post you’re on doesn’t it?

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DaphneFanshaw Tue 17-Nov-20 20:42:07

Why don’t they just turn of the tagging function....
I am sure HQ said that we could do that easily.

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants Tue 17-Nov-20 20:42:33

Anyone complaining about it would just get told to sort their own settings out if they don't want to receive notifications!

That's a much simpler solution than me remembering the preferences of millions of posters!!


Jinglebellissimo Tue 17-Nov-20 20:43:31

Count (see I didn’t @ you) but surely what instead happens is complete confusion. Or worse still you come across as massively offensive if a subsequent poster thinks you’re talking to them.

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user15368536798589 Tue 17-Nov-20 20:45:13

I don't use @ here because it results in the person getting an email and that feels intrusive. If the person is interested enough to stay in the thread they'll see your reply just using their name or quote.

I don't like it when people start @ ing someone who has left a thread to try and get them back. Or because they want updates on someone's upsetting circumstances for their entertainment.

I have seen plenty of people asking others to stop @ ing them.

tobee Tue 17-Nov-20 20:45:56


I think on MN, there will always be someone telling someone off for something.


Time40 Tue 17-Nov-20 20:46:01

But @ username isn't mentioning someone, is it - it's sending an email notification to that person that they have been mentioned?

Waxonwaxoff0 Tue 17-Nov-20 20:46:48

You get emails anyway though if someone comments on a thread you're on.

Feministicon Tue 17-Nov-20 20:46:51

I get so many stupid emails from mumsnet, one every time I’m @‘d and then loads about AIBU polls 😂 how do I stop them

ShowOfHands Tue 17-Nov-20 20:46:56

I've only seen it when people are already bickering. "Don't @ me!" is the new "CAT me you cunt"


tobee Tue 17-Nov-20 20:48:06

It's not really that much of a nightmare getting a @ is it? Or a notification? Doesn't really impact on one's day? You can just choose to ignore!

Waxonwaxoff0 Tue 17-Nov-20 20:48:19

I've set my emails from Mumsnet to spam so I don't get them in my inbox! grin

lughnasadh Tue 17-Nov-20 20:48:30

It's very intrusive to use the @ function - it just seems so demanding to want to plonk yourself into someone's private mail box.

Just use bold .

user15368536798589 Tue 17-Nov-20 20:48:43

Count (see I didn’t @ you) but surely what instead happens is complete confusion

I'm not confused. You named the poster you were replying to.

tobee Tue 17-Nov-20 20:48:55

Intrusive! Really?

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