Sorry, I didnt know where to put this and I just don't know where to turn anymore. This is going to be long sorry, and I'll still probably not get everything in.
TL:DR dd refusing school, possible autism, has a meltdown every morning, dont know how to get her there.
Dd hated year 7 and would try to stay off whenever she could, which I obviously discouraged, but then lockdown happened and come September she has been refusing to go in most days. It started off with a girl threatening to "fight" dd. She stopped going and didnt tell me about this for a few weeks, but she finally did and school sorted it. Then it was the noise in class hurts her ears/everybody hates her/friends had fallen out with each other etc... Sadly not much can be done about this, though the school has tried as best they can (time out pass, spot checks on classes etc)
We're currently having cahms interviews via video chat, but it's only our 2nd one this week.
School keeps ringing me and telling me "dd has to come in" "you need to get her here" etc, but cant tell me how to. I've tried being nice, compromising, talking through it, getting her outside help, I've got shouty (not proud) I've punished, I've tried bribery...nothing works. Her attendance is under 50% now and pretty sure they've now referred me to the LA, so no doubt a fine is forthcoming.
I believe she has mild autism, and possibly bipolar and maybe even paranoia-she thinks everyone hates her at school. But things are moving so slowly with covid. I'm unsure whether this is intended behaviour or something to do with autism, or what. She did self harm last year for a bit (very superficial though). She can struggle with empathy sometimes. She gets irrational fears.
I'm honestly at the end of my tether and I've never suffered with my mental health luckily, but this is starting to crack me.
Does anyone have any advice or information or even just words of wisdom to help? I'm in England (NE) if that helps.
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KrinklyBottom · 17/11/2020 15:03
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