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I know I’m being silly, but might this upset you a tiny bit?

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ChooseYourLameName Tue 17-Nov-20 11:20:30

DC is 3 today. It’s now gone 11am and still no interest in the pile of presents laid out for him.

I feel really sad, that he just isn’t interested. I long to have an excited child. Christmas is even worse sad I’d love nothing more than to have to tell him to tone it done with his wish list (obviously not a written one).

I know this is just how he is but I feel a bit robbed when it comes to these occasions.

I tried encouraging him to look and he was quite pissed I’d tried interrupting breakfast time of toast and smoothie! blush

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CuriousaboutSamphire Tue 17-Nov-20 11:24:31

A pile of presents always scared me as a kid. Try presenting them one at a time throughout the day, maybe hide a couple!

The bright side is you have a non materialistic kid!

Bunnymumy Tue 17-Nov-20 11:25:22

Well it's really his first experiences of prezzoes where he might have some comprehension tbf. I think if he realises there is things in them he enjoys, he might remember this and be more excited come Christmas. If not, next year for sure.

In a few years you'll probably eat your words here too lol.

yellowmaoampinball Tue 17-Nov-20 11:25:51

Aw, he's still so little! The excitement may come as he gets older. Is it a big pile of presents? Maybe he's a bit overwhelmed? Could be that if you take them all away except one he could be more interested?

ChooseYourLameName Tue 17-Nov-20 11:26:08

Honestly, I should’ve just wrapped a load of different chocolates up! Maybe he would show an interest to unwrap if he saw me unwrapping chocolate or cheese

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ChooseYourLameName Tue 17-Nov-20 11:27:26

It isn’t a big pile, just 6 presents. He isn’t really interested in toys so he’s hard to buy for. Other people’s kids I often get carried away as I know I can walk into a shop and find loads they’ll like

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Audreyseyebrows Tue 17-Nov-20 11:27:41

He’s only young, he has no idea what the fuss is about! I bet if you open one and give him the present he will like it!

MrsMigginsMate Tue 17-Nov-20 11:28:04

Second the idea of spreading them out. DD disliked the spotlight and focus on her when she opened a big pile.

Whatwouldscullydo Tue 17-Nov-20 11:29:40

Aw don't take it personally.

The pressure to "perform" is too much for kids really.

Its not that they aren't interested or ungrateful , they just prefer to do it in their own time.

AlternativePerspective Tue 17-Nov-20 11:29:57

does he have SN?

I’ve read numerous of these types of posts on the SN boards over the years hence why I’m asking.

If so then I think it’s understandable that you might be grieving for the child you thought you were going to have, and a bit sad that you’re not getting these moments as many do. flowers

BearSoFair Tue 17-Nov-20 11:31:22

Reminds me of DD when she was little and we showed her the Christmas tree that 'the elves' had put up overnight...she looked it up and down, went 'hmm', and toddled back off to bed grin She used to be quite overwhelmed with presents too, wasn't unusual for her to spread them over a few days, I think it was just a bit too full on and too much to take in in one go. Around 5/6 she really started to get more into it!

ChooseYourLameName Tue 17-Nov-20 11:31:29

Alternative He has suspected ASD, but all speech and language and testing stopped that he was suppose to have because of COVID. I just feel left in the dark. Horrible time in general, but I’m usually great day to day. It’s milestones like this that really pull at me, ridiculous I know

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ImaSababa Tue 17-Nov-20 11:32:21

I'd much rather that than a grabby, greedy child.

Bunnymumy Tue 17-Nov-20 11:36:16

Just thinking, he's a fellow scorpio (my birthday tomorrow xD). I hear we like to do things in our own time, without other people dictating. Stubbirn sorts. Also tend to live in our own little worlds in our heads lol. Happy birthday to your wee fella!

Maybe if you go over and pretend to be very interested in the presents, but in a way that you are just talking to yourself, not trying to entice him...he will be curious. Then you could try pretending to open one and struggling "ooft I cant open" and see if he starts to try to help. He might be too young but I just wonder if you acting curious (but as if it's none if his buisness) might entice him.

stopringingme Tue 17-Nov-20 11:38:27

My DD who has Autism did not want to open a present for any occasion - so I put them away and just gave her one at a time, one Christmas the present opening took 3 days.

Last Christmas when she was 6 was the first time she was actually interested and opened all her presents in one day and then wanted more !

Tenyearsgone Tue 17-Nov-20 11:39:17

ImaSababa

I'd much rather that than a grabby, greedy child.

A child excited by their birthday presents is not a greedy grabby child.

Blueberries0112 Tue 17-Nov-20 11:39:37

ChooseYourLameName

DC is 3 today. It’s now gone 11am and still no interest in the pile of presents laid out for him.

I feel really sad, that he just isn’t interested. I long to have an excited child. Christmas is even worse sad I’d love nothing more than to have to tell him to tone it done with his wish list (obviously not a written one).

I know this is just how he is but I feel a bit robbed when it comes to these occasions.

I tried encouraging him to look and he was quite pissed I’d tried interrupting breakfast time of toast and smoothie! blush


I wouldn't worry about it. He is three. Although my daughter was never super excited about presents and still isn't

greenlynx Tue 17-Nov-20 11:40:02

He’s only 3, suspected ASD or not they are often excited about something simple at this age and don’t know what to do with the “proper “ toys. And if he’s the only child he probably has lots of toys and doesn’t bother.

emilyfrost Tue 17-Nov-20 11:41:45

Just thinking, he's a fellow scorpio (my birthday tomorrow xD). I hear we like to do things in our own time, without other people dictating. Stubbirn sorts. Also tend to live in our own little worlds in our heads lol. Happy birthday to your wee fella!

Please ignore this, OP. Astrology is a load of bollocks; being a “Scorpio” has no bearing on your sons personality or behaviours.

Listen to all the other helpful replies.

Bunnymumy Tue 17-Nov-20 11:42:38

Of course it's alload if bollocks. Irlt was just meant as a bit if lightheartedness, no need to be a knob.

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake Tue 17-Nov-20 11:43:08

My ds is 3 today as well. Happy Birthday!! My older ds has asd, and he not only isn't interested but actively hates birthdays, so I get how hard it can be

SuperbGorgonzola Tue 17-Nov-20 11:43:49

Definitely spread them out. My DS does like presents but he doesn't like the "now look at this one, what about this one!" process. He's better just enjoying the one he has opened then going back when he's ready.

Bunnymumy Tue 17-Nov-20 11:46:31

Maybe you could wrap the chocolate and then unwrap it infront of him. So he gets the idea that presents have nice things in them.

emilyfrost Tue 17-Nov-20 11:48:57

Bunnymumy

Of course it's alload if bollocks. Irlt was just meant as a bit if lightheartedness, no need to be a knob.

If you agree it’s all a load of bollocks, why spout it?

I wasn’t “being a knob”; some people really are stupid enough to believe in that sort of thing and it can be quite dangerous thinking. So of course I’m going to call it out when I see it.

Bunnymumy Tue 17-Nov-20 11:53:51

I'll restrain myself from suggesting she bathe the child in the blood of a virgin and dip him in the river sticks then. Incase op takes it seriously xD

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