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Friend who I’m staying with- had her family member threaten to assault me

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Tinyandpetite Sun 01-Nov-20 20:01:24

Hello, before everybody thinks it, I swear I’m a genuine poster who is going through this- not a troll. I’ve been living with a person for the past 6 months, who no thought was a friend. I’d been through quite a rough time during lockdown, I had a mental breakdown. My daughter went to stay with my mum, I came to stay with my friend. My daughter came over today, we went shopping for craft items, cake back and started making them. I had a phone call from a withhold number to say she was friends sister in law and they were going to shove me and my dog and belongings in a transit van and dump me in the middle of Manchester. I can honestly say I have no idea what this is over. I knocked on her door and asked what I’d done and do did my daughter, I haven’t had a single word on the subject. My mum and brother came to get my daughter who was hysterical at hearing the phone call ( she’s 11) sadly neither have room for me, or I’d be with them. My brother is ex police and told me to log the threat with the 111 I think it is number. I had 2 more missed calls from the withheld number. At that point my brother shouted that the call would be logged and threats of kidnap are a crime.,I’ve had no calls since. I did call the number and the policeman was lovely, he’s involved with housing and gave me his work number to call tomorrow to try and find me a place to go. I’m hiding in the room with draws by the door shaking and crying. I honestly don’t know what I’ve done to deserve this. It’s not the first time she’s turned on me or my daughter, but it will be the last time. Not sure why I’m posting other than I’m feeling pretty alone and Could do with a bit of support. Thanks for reading x

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Tinyandpetite Sun 01-Nov-20 20:02:03

Sorry that was long

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FatCatThinCat Sun 01-Nov-20 20:06:56

What has your 'friend' said about it?

WorraLiberty Sun 01-Nov-20 20:07:05

Was she not in when you knocked on her door?

Have the police not asked to speak to her?

Why can't you sleep on your mum's or your brother's floor?

CatsAndEyeliner Sun 01-Nov-20 20:08:23

What happened last time?

Tinyandpetite Sun 01-Nov-20 20:08:40

My friend hasn’t said a single word and keeping her bedroom door locked

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slipperywhensparticus Sun 01-Nov-20 20:10:16

You need out ASAP but can no one take you and your dog in at all?

Tinyandpetite Sun 01-Nov-20 20:10:33

She basically was talking about me to her boyfriend l, I was in the bedroom. Pretty nasty stuff about me that wasn’t true. I called her out on it. Blanked me for a solid week

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needsahouseboy Sun 01-Nov-20 20:13:39

So your guest in her house??

I’d say you’ve massively out stayed your welcome and need to leave tbh

RedIsWhereItsAt Sun 01-Nov-20 20:14:07

When this is sorted I think you need to reflect on the fact that neither your mum nor your brother have room for you which seems extraordinary. Do what you have to do now (other people are posting great advice) then I would be reassessing what they mean to me I think.

Motnight Sun 01-Nov-20 20:17:24

I think that you should leave now Op.

MacDuffsMuff Sun 01-Nov-20 20:20:28

Why are you still there OP? You need to get out of there and as a pp said sleep on your mum's floor so you can be with your daughter.

Dustysilkflowers Sun 01-Nov-20 20:20:59

It sounds like you should have left a long time ago.

There was no excuse for the phone calls but you need to move out. She obviously doesn’t want you in her home anymore and tbh your not her responsibility.

Can you really not sleep on your mothers couch? On your bothers couch?

zaphodbeeble Sun 01-Nov-20 20:26:04

You can’t stay. Have you been paying any rent ?

MrsTerryPratchett Sun 01-Nov-20 20:26:11


She basically was talking about me to her boyfriend l, I was in the bedroom. Pretty nasty stuff about me that wasn’t true. I called her out on it. Blanked me for a solid week

You've stayed with her for 6 months, in her house, and she's slagging you off and you blanked her for a week. In her house?

You need to present as homeless at the Council because you have nowhere to go.

IndecentFeminist Sun 01-Nov-20 20:26:41

Has the friend not said anything, like genuinely no subtle hinting towards you leaving? How is there space for your daughter at your mum's but not you? Does your friend agree to you having your daughter over for crafting etc?

CatsAndEyeliner Sun 01-Nov-20 20:27:36

Are you paying her rent/lodgings?

justthecat Sun 01-Nov-20 20:29:16

Call your family you need to get out

allthewaterinthetap Sun 01-Nov-20 20:29:29

There seems like a lot of backstory here. Why could you not share a room with dd?

Cant you stay at your mums? Even sleeping on her floor will be better then staying at your friends. I dont understand how your mum has place for your daughter and not you? You said its happened before, what happened? Do you work? Can you stay in a hotel? Tbh looks like you overstayed your welcome.

DeKraai Sun 01-Nov-20 20:31:05

Sounds like you've outstayed you're welcome tbh.

Doesn't make what's happened in any way acceptable.

You need out.

Why can't you sleep on the floor/sofa at your mum's, with your daughter there? Surely it would be good for your daughter to be with you again?

1WildWitchParty Sun 01-Nov-20 20:31:59

6 months is a long time to be a guest!

Not many people would have a friend to stay for so long.

Are you paying your way and really working to
Make the house run well for your friend?

OP I am sorry for your tough situation but it sounds as if you have REALLY overstayed your welcome and missed signals suggesting that it is time to move on.

nimbuscloud Sun 01-Nov-20 20:32:12

Why have you stayed for 6 months???

grapewine Sun 01-Nov-20 20:33:51

Six months is a long time. No excuse for the phone call, but you need to get out of there. You've clearly massively overstayed your welcome with how everyone is acting.

nimbuscloud Sun 01-Nov-20 20:34:31

Had you discussed your plans with your friend in terms of your moving out?
Maybe you having your daughter there doing baking was the straw that broke the camel’s back.

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