First, what is the correct title for a SAHM who is still SAH once the children are grown up? It's not housewife anymore, I know that!
Anyway, my question is are you "aware" on a daily basis of who earns the money?
I have a friend whose husband is a high earner. They married young then had 4 dc in 4 years before she'd ever really had a job (so she had nothing to go back to).
He's a nice man, she seems to have free reign to spend their money, she has cash if we're going out etc but she is constantly aware of where the money comes from. E.g. she prefers not to go out at weekends because he likes her to be around for him then (that's how she puts it, not that she wants to be with him) and he gets the final say because he pays for it all. I don't actually think he uses this argument but she seems to be in a permanent state of being grateful to him for everything they have because he earns the money.
I was a SAHM when DC were small but it was always planned to be temporary. During that time our money was very much "ours" and I didn't feel beholden to DH, I suppose because I knew I was pulling my weight with young DC. Does it feel different once the children are older/grown up?
I didn't need to go back financially and I often wonder how life would have been if I hadn't.
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If you're long term SAHM?
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1stV45 · 01/11/2020 16:49
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