This is more a rant than anything, as I know I can’t change other peoples behaviours. I just wanted to know if anyone had anything similar and any advice?
My DH parents are very much of the vibe that adult children have a ‘duty’ to visit their parents, and put in effort etc. We live a good four hours drive away from them and they’ve only been to visit once since our son was born 2 yrs ago.
We’re expected to go and see them, despite both of us working and having small child (obvs Covid has got in the way somewhat this year). We’re currently visiting for 3 nights (in hotel to minimise virus risk) - anyway, on the way down here, my husband informs me that his dad won’t be here all weekend as he’s off doing his hobby! This trip has been on the cards for ages, and his parents are retired so could literally do any of this any other time.
My fam is complete opposite- will move heaven and earth to help us out and love seeing their grandkid.
I can see it’s really hurt my husband, and pissed me off to be honest. In the grand scheme of thing, not a huge deal, but it has made me very much think, why do we bother? And how does anyone else deal with this kind of disinterested (but weirdly obligatory!) in laws?
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In laws expect us to visit- but aren’t at all interested
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Anewmum2018 · 01/11/2020 08:18
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