But it’s hard to pin down concrete examples. It’s not screaming shouting name calling but isolating me, refusing to communicate, ignoring situations where I have achieved but picking up on bizarre misdeeds (clothing I was wearing whilst working from home).
We were previously quite close, she had sent me a friend request on all my social media, we would go out socially with some of the team, she would talk about her issues with her managers to the point that when she was really struggling she would frequently lock the office door and cry in front of me.
Overnight her whole attitude changed, literally out of nowhere. She emailed a very formal email to me that she was changing my working situation due to covid, something she knew would be very difficult logistically as we had discussed previously. She never replies to any emails, never. But if I then ask someone else for advice or input she instantly contacts me to remind me she is my manager and why am I asking other people. When I say I did contact her first I get a “well I’m very busy” response. I get work requests from a number of people (standard practice) and she emailed them to tell them all requests for me to do work have to go through her. She completely stopped interacting on social media. For example she posted something and I commented a benign nice comment along with 30 other people. She went through and liked all of their comments and just ignored mine (I realise this sounds petty!)
I had a presentation to give to a large amount of people and received positive feedback from a number of seniors. She called me for the first time in months, ignored anything about the work I had done and told me I should stop fiddling with my hair so much during meetings!
There are so many other small things like this which all add up to feeling like I’m being got at. Other than the list of work/projects I have sent her which she never acknowledges (outside of my scope of work done as a favour to her) I don’t have anything I can really put down on paper.
Any advice here?
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I feel like I’m being bullied by my manager
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Themasked · 31/10/2020 09:38
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