Hi All
Im having a hard time lately. Lots going on and Im struggling with it all. I finally reached out to my DR and have a referral. I have been asked if I need Counselling or CBT. Does anyone have experiences about which method helped them move forward?.
Along with lots of other people I have struggled with Covid. The kids moved back home after moving out a few years ago, one child with no exams and the struggle there, and a bereavement along the way. Everyone being at home when I was used to lots of time and space to deal with things in my own way and own space have hit me hard and brought up lots of issues from my past.
I am a massive people pleaser. So much so I have no idea who I am anymore as I've always tried to be what others want me to be. Now that the kids are leaving home-although they are still here right now- and I am not needed as a parent anymore - DH works away a lot so I've been the go to parent over the years but no one needs me anymore. So I don't know my purpose. I have been a SAHM mum for the past 10 years and financially dont need to work although I think i will need to for my own sanity. But I don't know what to do - and that s a whole other thread.This loss of identity has hit me so hard that I just dont want to be here anymore. I am suicidal as I feel I have fulfilled my purpose to raise my kids and just want to go to sleep and never wake up. I thought I would never do anything about it but I have taken lots of pills recently and felt it was ok if I did not wake up - BUT I did!!
I have always felt worthless, my crappy family have always made me feel that way and do not waste any opportunity to have a dig at my expense. Some things are worse than that and they have really tried to screw me over. I always though family was everything and deluded myself to who they really are. This now makes me feel very stupid indeed and how I could have been so idiotic to have fallen for their crap over the years. It all ties into the being worthless and how i feel they must have been right to call me that over the years as I could not see them for they really are.
My children are amazing and DH is lovely. If I was not here they would not have to deal with them at all, as they don't like them and want nothing to do with them. So its all my fault again that DH and DC have such horrible people in their lives.
I don't know how to move forward and honestly think I will do something if I can't find away out of this. Referral has helped but I don't know which strategy would help me most.
I think I would like some strategies to help me find who I am, so I don't see myself as an extension of my family anymore. Not sure if that makes sense. Or should I be working on quieting my inner voice that tells me i'm worthless and find coping mechanisms.
Thank you for reading. Any advice welcome. Or recommendations for books to read to help me sort myself out.
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Counselling VS CBT - which one do i go for?
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Whattherapy2020 · 30/10/2020 17:32
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