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Would you have a male nanny?

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ShirleyPhallus Thu 29-Oct-20 21:39:40

DH and I are talking about this and neither of us would feel 100% comfortable about it but we can’t really articulate why.

Have you ever employed the services of a male nanny? Would you?

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FreeButtonBee Thu 29-Oct-20 21:54:07

I had. He was great. Still friend with him now. You are hiring a person not a sex. Unless you wouldn’t let your husband brother or father look after your child?

Thiswayorthatway Thu 29-Oct-20 21:57:08

biscuit

ShirleyPhallus Thu 29-Oct-20 21:58:59

Thiswayorthatway

biscuit

What’s the biscuit for? confused

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WWYD2020 Thu 29-Oct-20 22:01:35

Yeah just like I had multiple male docs/consultants look at my vag when giving birth.. they’re just doing a job, hopefully they’ll do it well.

BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze Thu 29-Oct-20 22:02:26

I haven’t but I would. Why not?

Thiswayorthatway Thu 29-Oct-20 22:02:48

biscuit = You have got to be kidding me.

Pipandmum Thu 29-Oct-20 22:03:29

Sure. Especially if you have boy children.

PlanDeRaccordement Thu 29-Oct-20 22:04:14

I would if I were in need of a nanny. I don’t care whether man or woman.

WisestIsShe Thu 29-Oct-20 22:04:17

I've never had a nanny but if I did yes I'd employee a man if he was the one we gelled best with.

Echobelly Thu 29-Oct-20 22:04:20

We've had 3 male au pairs, it's been fine, in fact the last one was the best au pair we had. I get why people are uncomfortable, let's face it, men are more likely to be sex offenders or violent than women (it's still not very likely at all, but there it is). We just made sure we got good references for all of them - two had been au pairs before, one had a worked for several years at a summer camp and had excellent recommendations.

YellowandGreenToBeSeen Thu 29-Oct-20 22:04:29

Absolutely I would if they were the best person for the job.

HaleNo Thu 29-Oct-20 22:04:58

Don't see why not. It's what they do.

If they're effective at their job then why not.

TheChippendenSpook Thu 29-Oct-20 22:05:18

I know it's a bit different but I've worked in anurseries which employed three men. They were great to work with and very professional.

TheChippendenSpook Thu 29-Oct-20 22:05:37

A nursery*

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross Thu 29-Oct-20 22:05:44

You can't really articulate why because you know that once you do, you'll have to actually listen to how unbelievably sexist you both are.

ISeeTheLight Thu 29-Oct-20 22:07:14

I was thrilled when my daughter's nursery hired a guy. I think having male role models in a caring position are important. Equally happy her primary school now has at least 30-40% male teachers.

WinWinnieTheWay Thu 29-Oct-20 22:07:32

I wouldn't be ok with that,

WellTidy Thu 29-Oct-20 22:08:23

Absolutely yes. I if a male candidate and a female candidate were equal in every way (unlikely that two candidates ever are), I may well go for the male nanny candidate. Nannynick is a regular poster on the Nannies board and is really knowledgeable and impressive.

LunaLula83 Thu 29-Oct-20 22:12:54

Err nope

Thiswayorthatway Thu 29-Oct-20 22:13:47

Why not?

joystir59 Thu 29-Oct-20 22:14:35

Nope. Nor a male babysitter. There is a significant risk that any male employed in such roles would sexually abuse your child

yawnsvillex Thu 29-Oct-20 22:14:46

Yep. My DF ran off with our Swedish Female Nanny so my DM is kicking herself 30 years later she should've got a male nanny.

Waterdropsdown Thu 29-Oct-20 22:16:52

Yes,we have a male childminder (very small set up so similar ish to nanny, previously had a female nanny). Honestly I/we love him he is really really great.

Waterdropsdown Thu 29-Oct-20 22:17:40

@joystir59 please can you elaborate?

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