NC. Please don’t attack me for this!
Dated someone 5 times now, we get on reasonably well and I do like him. However... we have wildly different income and views on money. I earn over 50k, he earns 28k. This is unlikely to change in the near future if at all if he stays in current line of work. I could earn more (if I get off my backside and put the work in), but probably will end up around the 120k mark if I carry on as I am. The next few years more like 65k though...it’s a long career ladder! He’s 41 I’m 30.
He hasn’t bought his own place, he rents and says that’s what he will continue to do as he’s never really saved. He’s never offered to pay during a dinner...We always split it which I don’t mind but he often orders alcohol that costs more than my lemonade!
We’ve sort of addressed the disparity in jest and he seems to think that it’s almost romantic that we differ here...he says we can both teach each other something
I’m by no means money obsessed and it’s less about his actual earnings and more that he doesn’t seem to have any aspirations for security if that makes sense? He also asked me what I earned on our first date which is the only reason I know his pay!
Would any of this put you off or am I being a bit of a dick here?
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Would you date someone in this situation?
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Amberystyle · 29/10/2020 12:55
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