So my I have 2 siblings who both have 2 kids each, and I just have the one DD. They live 135 miles away from me and my parents (seperated). So my DD is a lot closer to her grandparents especially my dad. She is quite clearly the "favourite" he never misses a birthday or Christmas. However, he will occasionally send a late card or not send a present/money at all for my nieces and nephews. My mom never ever misses any of their birthdays or christmas and neither do I, i make A LOT of effort even though they make minimal back. Thats fine, I do it purely because how much I love and miss my nieces and nephews. I love my siblings dearly too we speak almost every day!
Here's my problem, they take it out on me the fact my dad doesnt really make the same amount of effort with their kids like he does with my DD. I know it must feel really shitty for them, I understand but it's not my fault. I do my part, I remind my dad every of every single birthday, offer to get gifts and post them but he always says he will send cash and forget even though I constantly remind him. Every single Christmas I go out shopping for their 4 kids on behalf of my dad, gift wrap and bag everything. But it's not good enough, because no matter what dad does its never enough. My one sibling ALWAYS messages me asking how much my DD got on birthdays/xmas so he can compare. I feel horrible, I really am trying my best to include them and push my dad into stop being so naughty. I spoil both my parents, I adore them and I feel as if they give my daughter more because of this? I make a lot more effort than my siblings, which again I understand is easier as I am the one around them. They too dont send my dad cards or gifts, my eldest sibling doesnt even send my mom a card. It's all to much and I'm sick of getting the blame even though I try to be the peacemaker and make sure no one is left out. I'd feel the same as them, it must feel horrible, but they never tell our dad its always me who get s it. It really bothers me I love my family so much and I look after everybody. I'll never stop trying to make this right, I just really needed to get this off my chest as yet again the issue has been brought up again today. (
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My DD is the favourite
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MonicaBelulaGellar · 25/10/2020 19:46
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