I'm estranged sister is a horrible, horrible, horrible person. She's a drama queen and a bully and she wants the whole family to be about her.
My sister picks out things and finds offense in things. Like we have a brother living abroad and she took offence to him working abroad because his life wasn't about her any more.
She doesn't speak to me after a row about 6 years Christmas's ago. She intimidated me for months in the family home and then she left where she started with dirty, abusive messages.
She took offence to our mother because of our mother's good relationship with our sister in law. According to my sisters many abusive messages, shes my mother's new daughter. Not true but my sister is envious of the good relationship between my mother and our sister in law.
I have another brother who can't stand her drama and doesnt want to have anything to do with her.
Here's the thing, she hasn't been in our lifes physically in years but she won't stop harassing us as a family. She doesnt want to be part of the family and according to her we are all dead to her but she won't leavt us alone.
She's done some terrible acts of revenge over the years like ads online selling things with our names and numbers. Some filth texted into our phones with insults and threats. There has been so much.
For the most part she is ignored. Numbers changed etc. Blocking and changing numbers wasn't 100% successful because she found other ways - fake accounts, going to employers, friends, etc. She had no shame airing her dirty laundry to the world.
Anything set her off. Like last year she was browsing Facebook and she found a picture my brother was tagged. She didn't like it how he was dressed well and he was happy and pictured with his group of friends. She ended up messaging everybody who was tagged in that picture who were his friends, airing her dirt to them.
For the most part she is ignored. Except for one brother. He did a good job of ignoring her originally but then eventually he snapped and started fighting fire with fire. It's on and off from her. He usually leaves her alone. It's only when she starts texting him or sending messages in another way, over and over and over again that he will snap back at her. He's now getting the brunt end of the stick from her.
She started on one of her spells yesterday sending him abuse. Many of her messages replayed all the old scenarios that she has built in her mind and having her 'poor me' and 'you are all so awful' attitude.
One of her messages read something like - so long as you all continue to be cunts to me, I will continue to be a bitch.
I don't really care about being called a cunt. We are not on her back. It reads to me as if she's trying to control us. It reads as if she wants us to all make a move to make amends with her when she has made it impossible for us to do so with her toxic behaviour of revenge and poison. If we are cunts for ignoring her, so be it. Its also reads to me as if she wants attention from us. She wants us to acknowledge her. There was also an unspoken threat in her message.
He ignored the messages but eventually he snapped and told her to fcuk off and that he is glad she is out from the family. She really doesn't like it when he stands up to her.
By the end of the evening, he was getting messages from gays. She made an ad on a gay dating site in his name using his address and phone number.
5 years of abuse and harassment from her to the family. 5 years of hatred campaign from her. The cops washed their hands of this and told us because there's no threats of violence from her, they can't do anything and they said its a civil matter and because we never has a love relationship with her it's not even considered a form of domestic violence and the only option available to us is the civil route and an injunction in the court. We don't have the money for that.
I'm left physically sick with what she's doing. All because we are not confirming to gmher way. I thought about meditation before but I decided against it. I'm not interested in latching things up with her and also I know her so well. She's not able to meet others half way and understand their way. She's not able to understand life beyond herself.
I know something about her past. She cheated the benefits department about 10 years ago. We weren't talking at the time either but I know the details and the cheats she did to obtain the benefits money. I turned a blind eye to it and it never bothered me but at this stage I'm tempted to report that cheating that she did so that she can learn how to work hard and pay back the money she cheated the benefit department off. If she was paying money back will she have money for phone credit? Will she be able to afford rent to charge up her abuse and hatred devices?
Will I report her for the benefits fraud? What would you do if you were in my position?
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Would you report someone for benefits fraud?
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BlueOceanWave · 23/10/2020 17:55
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