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Ex's grandfather put me in will.

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reducingfootprint · 23/10/2020 17:29

This is my daughters situation.
She dated her ex from 18 to 23, ended badly and have not spoken in 4 years.
Grandfather and DD got on, she is a caring person and probably to be polite listened to all his stories etc. He lived on her route to her bus stop so would drop his newspaper etc round every morning, she says his family werent the most caring or couldnt be bothered with him. They both have an interest in nature and the environment etc, she says they were close but not overly. She viewed him as her partners grandfather and nothing more.

He has since passed and DD was contacted to say he has left her a sum of around 15k to her but not much to his own family.
WWYD?

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stillsomewhatsheldonesque · 23/10/2020 17:30

Honour his wishes.

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Dinosauraddict · 23/10/2020 17:31

I think it's lovely he did that for her. She should honour his wishes.

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chipsandpeas · 23/10/2020 17:31

accept it - if the family didnt care when he was alive then why should he have left them money
he obv thought a lot of your DD

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Aquamarine1029 · 23/10/2020 17:32

He wanted her to have that money. She should accept it, be grateful for it, and put it to good use.

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LightUpLetters · 23/10/2020 17:32

Keep it. He wanted her to have it

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viques · 23/10/2020 17:35

Be proud of your lovely daughter, be proud too that someone else has recognised her caring ,kind nature and rewarded it.


It might be of course that the old fella left her the money to spite his family members, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that he chose your dd to leave it to, not the dogs home. Grin


In either case I hope she enjoys spending it.

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Toscata · 23/10/2020 17:36

It was his money, to leave however he wanted, and that's exactly what he did.

Sounds like your daughter brought more to his life than his family members did.

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lunar1 · 23/10/2020 17:37

She should honour his wishes.

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justgeton · 23/10/2020 17:38

There's no question about what to do imo. You respect his wishes.

I imagine he thought long and hard about that.. why would you not accept it?

Your daughter should be proud.

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MegaClutterSlut · 23/10/2020 17:41

She should take it, it sounds like she deserves it Smile

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FedUpAtHomeTroels · 23/10/2020 17:42

Sounds like he liked her better than his own family. Accept it and enjoy.

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Disfordarkchocolate · 23/10/2020 17:42

Take the money. I'd be tempted to make a little donation to a charity in line with his interests. Shy sounds lovely.

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TeaOneSugar · 23/10/2020 17:43

What's the question? What would you do other than accept it?

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SuitedandBooted · 23/10/2020 17:44

He would have thought hard about who he wanted to give his money to. He obviously valued your daughter's care and attention.

Honour his wishes.

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Chloemol · 23/10/2020 17:44

Accept it, it’s what he wanted to happen

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Anderton · 23/10/2020 17:46

She made a difference to his life and he’s shown her how much he appreciated it. She should take the money, are the family trying to suggest she shouldn’t?

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Beamur · 23/10/2020 17:52

Take the money.
A lovely gesture from him to your DD I would say. Possibly also intended as a message for his family beyond the grave!

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Charleyhorses · 23/10/2020 18:03

She should Take it.

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BIWI · 23/10/2020 18:05

I'm not really sure what the problem is here! It was his will, a lovely thing for her, and she must accept it. There is no reason why she shouldn't, is there?

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MsTSwift · 23/10/2020 18:07

Awww that’s a lovely story. A friend was contacted by a solicitor as an elderly man she had chatted to as a bar maid in her holiday job as a student left her £1k with instructions it be spent on a good night out

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unmarkedbythat · 23/10/2020 18:09

Accept the money, almost certainly, unless there was something else going on to make me feel like I really couldn't.

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katy1213 · 23/10/2020 18:10

You don't do anything. He left it to your daughter, not you (or so I assume, despite the heading!) - good for her and I hope she enjoys it!

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Redcups64 · 23/10/2020 18:11

Be proud of your daughter. To her he was just her boyfriends grandad, but to him she was obviously a lot more. Elderly really value and care for people who care for them, especially if that person doesn’t need to.

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Nancydrawn · 23/10/2020 18:11

I think it's lovely. I also think it would be lovely to take a small amount of the money (say, £250) and donate it to a charity dedicated to nature and/or the environment in his memory.

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supersop60 · 23/10/2020 18:12

Take the money. The family can try to contest the Will, but if they're not actual dependants, then they won't get anything. She was kind to him, and he remembered her for it.

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