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I've recently started working with one of my closest friends and I've discovered

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ComeOnCoveen Wed 21-Oct-20 21:32:08

He has a very weird work fake laugh (that I have never heard before!), he speaks entirely in jargon and he is totally in charge!

It is the weirdest thing!! The boy I've known most of my life, flitting from one crisis to the next, totally overthinking every tiny detail, is the big boss who is totally rocking it. I felt almost maternally proud during the meeting! blushgrin

We are not in the same organisation but our paths will now cross from time to time although virtually for the foreseeable future I would think.

I remember reading some threads earlier in lockdown when people were posting that they were shocked by their partners work persona and today reminded me of that. Anyone else had any home working revelations?

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Name7 Wed 21-Oct-20 21:54:18

Is his name Chandler Bing?

Scweltish Wed 21-Oct-20 22:01:53

Name7

Is his name Chandler Bing?

grin

ComeOnCoveen Wed 21-Oct-20 22:07:20

gringrinnot quite that bad!

I hope no one goes around slapping his bum either but maybe that'll be revealed in next month's meeting shock

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Ginflinger Wed 21-Oct-20 22:12:15

I had this! Friend is lovely but a total shambles. At work - brilliant, creative, driven. Could not have been more surprised!

MoonJelly Wed 21-Oct-20 22:26:40

Must admit, if I heard a friend talking jargon all the time, pride wouldn't be my first emotion. I suspect I'd sit there working out how to tell him he sounded like a total pillock.

StressyMcstresserson Wed 21-Oct-20 22:27:15

Name7

Is his name Chandler Bing?

I'm very sad you beat me to it blush 😂

mummmy2017 Wed 21-Oct-20 22:30:49

My Best friend is a mess in RL, but the boundarys of her work life mean she is totally rocking a staff of 30...

ComeOnCoveen Wed 21-Oct-20 22:34:15

Oh I called him afterwards and ribbed him about the jargon and asked what the noise he was making was grin

It was just so unexpected, it through me a bit.

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Ohsoneedy Wed 21-Oct-20 22:41:07

Not a friend but me. I’m a shambles. My life is chaos and I am a mess. I can barely breathe without feeling like I’m falling apart... but at work, I’m totally on it! I’m organised, exceeding targets, exploring new and creative solutions to problems, able to multi task and actually wuite well liked. I wish I was work me all of the time.

Shannith Wed 21-Oct-20 22:43:59

I had the opposite but equally amusing for all concerned. My best friend who knew me as laid back, clever but a bit ditsy was totally shell shocked to see me in work mode.

Think company director, team of over a hundred people. I mean she knew broadly what I did for a living but had never quite considered how I did it.

TH22 Wed 21-Oct-20 22:48:13

Name7

Is his name Chandler Bing?


Or Chanandala Bong?

Longdistance Wed 21-Oct-20 22:50:27

My dh’s like this. When we were in lockdown he was on lengthy calls, all the jargon spilled out, the way he spoke to everyone to get stuff done. He’s a higher earner, Senior management in construction.
He comes home and he’s bloody useless. I’m surprised if he can tie his own fucking shoelaces.

GabsAlot Wed 21-Oct-20 22:55:26

oh you all got there first about chandler

BoomBoomsCousin Wed 21-Oct-20 22:56:02

I have a friend who has recently become a judge. I know her as the crazy girl who gets drunk and skinny dips and it turns out she’s this incredibly thoughtful, wise woman who’s insightful and clear headed and very well respected.

Dontstepinthecowpat Wed 21-Oct-20 22:58:32

@longdistance I think we might be married to the same man!

NeonGenesis Wed 21-Oct-20 23:12:24

My husband is like this. He absolutely kills it at work. Very successful. At home he can barely sort his breakfast without some sort of catastrophe. And no, he isn't faking it so I do stuff for him - he's always been like this.

BloggersBlog Wed 21-Oct-20 23:23:10

Longdistance

My dh’s like this. When we were in lockdown he was on lengthy calls, all the jargon spilled out, the way he spoke to everyone to get stuff done. He’s a higher earner, Senior management in construction.
He comes home and he’s bloody useless. I’m surprised if he can tie his own fucking shoelaces.

I would love to be a psychologist and have the brains to analyse this!! I wonder why it is so different in work and home

justasking111 Wed 21-Oct-20 23:26:58

My son has a friend who in real life is the sweetest most disorganised man in the world, was as a child. But he is now a tv star. When in tv mode he is a natural and so skilled, organised and put together. We are all busting with pride at his achievements in this field. I know what you mean by motherly pride.

Crinkle77 Wed 21-Oct-20 23:30:56

Ooh @justasking111 wish you could spill the beans but know you can't.

BashfulClam Wed 21-Oct-20 23:33:03

My very shy and quiet husband becomes much more personable and was almost flirty with a customer once (well flirty for him lol).

ThumbWitchesAbroad Thu 22-Oct-20 00:04:15

My husband is like this too. When he's laughing with his workmates he has an Aussie version of the Boycey laugh (not quite that "machine gun" but similar) which is quite disconcerting, as he doesn't usually laugh like that.
He's also very focused and driven at work and Gets Things Done.

Totally fucking different at home - he can't seem to work anything out by himself unless it's something he's thought of to do himself. Anything else, the thinking-brain wife has to be involved, apparently hmm (In Australia, guide dogs for the blind are called "seeing-eye dogs", so I'm the "thinking-brain wife")

But DH has worked from home a lot for over 10 years, he has a home office, so it's no surprise to me any more!

MadameMeursault Thu 22-Oct-20 00:47:04

Name7

Is his name Chandler Bing?

Gaaaaah I was going to say that!

MasksGlovesSoapScrubs Thu 22-Oct-20 01:21:55

ThumbWitchesAbroad

My husband is like this too. When he's laughing with his workmates he has an Aussie version of the Boycey laugh (not quite that "machine gun" but similar) which is quite disconcerting, as he doesn't usually laugh like that.
He's also very focused and driven at work and Gets Things Done.

Totally fucking different at home - he can't seem to work anything out by himself unless it's something he's thought of to do himself. Anything else, the thinking-brain wife has to be involved, apparently hmm (In Australia, guide dogs for the blind are called "seeing-eye dogs", so I'm the "thinking-brain wife")

But DH has worked from home a lot for over 10 years, he has a home office, so it's no surprise to me any more!


Your description of his laugh made me laugh. So much so I bloody snorted at the same time. Just call me Peppa 🐷.

DeKraai Thu 22-Oct-20 01:47:40

My STBX is like this. He can't manage or work within a household budget. He also can't deal with people very well. He isn't able to concentrate on what people are saying for any length of time. He's nice but just isn't strong in these areas.

At work he's sociable, well respected, manages a budget of millions (not kidding) and is responsible for around 800 people (yes, that number), which he got to do by managing smaller teams first and always getting good feedback!

Hearing him in zoom meetings (where I hear the other side, not just him on his phone) was utterly shocking at the beginning of lockdown. There was rapport, he was clearly part of a team and respected. Once I got over the shock, I was happy for him that at least his work life is going well.

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