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Laura55 Thu 08-Oct-20 13:38:04

Recently I’ve been questioning if my baby is growing how a baby should grow. She’s a big girl (her dad is 6’5) so at 10 months I have to give her 18-24 mths clothes. She’s very active and healthy, no vaccines but never caught a cold or a bug or anything like that. She doesn’t crawl but she kind of just sits on her belly and drags herself on the bed (if that makes any sense lol). She gets up in her cot and she holds on to it and just sits up by herself but doesn’t walk (still very early so not very worried about that). She plays with toys but she gets bored and picks up the remote because she wants the tv on. I think I taught her to watch peppa pig on tv because when she was 6-7 months I was a single mother 24/7 with not much support so that was the only way I could keep her calm to clean/cook or just take a shower. The way I imagine a 10 month old is literally playing and knowing how to do certain things and seeing their little brain develop and getting smarter, I feel like my daughter isn’t interested in playing or just sitting down to play.
Also when it comes to food, she had 8 teeth and the next ones very close to coming out but I’m so scared to let her eat by himself. Made her toast with a bit of butter and honey the other day and cut it in small cubes and she ate fine but my anxiety levels were going highhhh. If anyone knows any foods to start with independent eating or any toys your babies were interested in or just any cute ones that help develop their little brains I’d appreciate it.
So is my baby developing okay? Is she meant to be a certain way at this age?

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UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme Thu 08-Oct-20 13:44:13

You need to let her feed herself finger food as xou know - toast and butter is fine but babies under two shouldn't have honey because of botulism.

Otherwise she sounds fine. Babies have a very shirt attention span. Talk to her endlessly - just about what you're doing or any old nonsense. Toys which do things are good - but a metal pan with a wooden spoon is as good as a bought toy! Get her stacking cups and sorting toys and google discovery baskets and sensory play for older babies.

UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme Thu 08-Oct-20 13:47:35

short not shirt attention span!

The whole business of putting things in her mouth herself is developmentally important. My DC liked steamed carrots and broccoli as finger food (they went off the broccoli as toddlers and only my eldest eats it again now). Pears cut into adult ring finger side strips are also good.

UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme Thu 08-Oct-20 13:50:47

She probably likes the remote because it does something - babies like things that give sensory feedback (press a button and a noise or light is turned on, push a pile of bricksbover snd they crash satisfyingly down). She's just starting to learn that she can make stuff happen by herself.

mynameiscalypso Thu 08-Oct-20 13:52:22

My 14 month old has only really begun to play in the last few weeks. Before that, he just put things in his mouth or banged things together. She should definitely be having finger food by now - start with soft food like banana and avocado and work from there. She needs to learn how to chew and it's a very important part of her development plus the act of feeding develops their fine motor skills.

Also, please get her vaccinated.

Purplelion Thu 08-Oct-20 13:55:00

I’m sorry but she won’t be healthy for long if she isn’t vaccinated!

PaulinePetrovaPosey Thu 08-Oct-20 14:13:39

She should be vaccinated, and she absolutely should not be eating honey under one.

You sound like you need some support - might a chat with your HV be useful?

sqirrelfriends Thu 08-Oct-20 14:40:50


She should be vaccinated, and she absolutely should not be eating honey under one.

You sound like you need some support - might a chat with your HV be useful?

I was going to say this. Please vaccinate your DD. The MMR is especially important to protect others, I know someone with an immune compromised child who can't have vaccines and if she gets measles (which is increasingly common) she is likely to be very ill or even die from it. Her mum is really worried as cases seem to be increasingly common.

Laiste Thu 08-Oct-20 14:50:03

no vaccines but never caught a cold or a bug

Do some research on the diseases that vaccines offer protection from. Look at the pictures of children who are suffering with them. It's not colds or 'bugs'.

Trousersareoverrated Thu 08-Oct-20 14:59:43

You do need some help here as it sounds like you don’t know about some very basic things to keep your baby healthy. Vaccines are so important- what is your reason for not giving them to her? Also, as other have said, honey shouldn’t be given to small babies which not everyone knows. But even without the other risks honey is so sugary - there is no need to give refined sugar to a 10 month old. What else do you feed her? Do you make sure her salt levels are acceptable as this can be very dangerous.

Iheartwhitetshirts Thu 08-Oct-20 15:04:05

My DS is 10 months and I was a nervous wreck giving him finger food but they really do surprise you. I find toast fingers, pancake fingers good to start on. He also really liked sweet potato “chips”.

But as others have said no honey before one because of the botulism risk and why on earth aren’t you vaccinating your baby?

Do you need some extra support in real life? Maybe try your health visitor?

Chocolatealllllday Thu 08-Oct-20 15:12:48

Honey should not be given to babies under 1 due to the risk of botulism. The vaccines are also very important - the illnesses that they protect them from can be life threatening and very painful for them. It would be awful to see you baby like this and you unable to help.

You need to be confident and start giving her finger food - I did a first aid course prior to weaning which helped calm my nerves. Also downloaded the British red cross baby and child first aid which is very good.

Mylittlesandwich Thu 08-Oct-20 15:23:43

DS is 10 months. She sounds normal to me. Please do speak to your GP about vaccines, they'll be able to ease any worries you have. They are very important. DS is up to date on his and is perfectly fine. It's been said before but no honey before 1.
DS doesn't crawl, he just doesn't fancy it. He likes to stand if you hold his hands. He only got his first tooth this week. All babies are different. Being a single parent is hard, I was brought up by one. Please reach out for help IRL. A health visitor would be a good place to start.

seiki Thu 08-Oct-20 16:25:23

Some babies don't crawl. They just skip to walking

Laura55 Thu 08-Oct-20 17:13:21

Thank you for everyone being worried but we already decided that we won’t take any vaccinations. NHS is giving every parent a choice and that was my choice and I ask everyone to please don’t try to convince me or tell me my child will get sick or die. I wish all our children will live a happy long life with or without the vaccines. I was personally not vaccinated and neither was every single child in my family to this day, nobody died. I did my research before I chose not to vaccinate her and I’m happy with my decision, we can all choose what we think it’s best for our babies and we cannot judge and try to scare each other.
Thank you to everyone else that actually gave me the answer I wanted, was a bit worried seeing how babies walk at 9 months these days and my DD is still lazy. xx

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Mylittlesandwich Thu 08-Oct-20 17:22:11

Your child may not get sick or die but others may. I hope you don't intend to send your child to nursery or school because other children such as those who have a compromised immune system should not be anywhere near your child. This choice doesn't just impact you and your child but I get the feeling you don't care.

UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme Thu 08-Oct-20 17:35:08

Laura55 why did you include the vaccines comment? Its completely irrelevant to the subject of your post, and the rest of your post, with the greatest respect, does not give the impression of a mother who's done any serious research about child health and development.

Please don't give your baby honey and do let her feed herself and have lots of sensory play, those things are crucial at this age.

sqirrelfriends Thu 08-Oct-20 17:35:28

@Laura55 well all that matters is that your child is ok. Never mind all the children who are already ill and could die from preventable diseases.

amusedbush Thu 08-Oct-20 17:54:14

When my friend's son was too young to have all of his vaccinations, he became very ill thanks to an older child who had not been vaccinated. He was hospitalised and seriously unwell.

Your child might get lucky, but they could pass on an illness to a younger or immunosuppressed child. So selfish.

ShalomToYouJackie Thu 08-Oct-20 18:02:59

It's incredibly selfish not to vaccinate your child, not just to your DD but for all the children your DD will be in contact with at nursery, play groups and school.

I worked at a GP surgery in a University city and you wouldn't believe the amount of teenagers who would ring up who had just left home and wanted their vaccines as their parents were anti-vaxxers and they hadn't been allowed them. So selfish and dangerous.

TheFormerPorpentinaScamander Thu 08-Oct-20 18:10:29

Please keep your unvaxxed child away from my DN who can't have vaccines and could die if she catches something.

Not walking at 10 months is totally normal. Some babies walk at 9 months, including my DB 38 years ago. Most don't.

A variety of toys is what matters imo. So some that light up/make a noise. Shape sorters. Stacking cups/bricks. Things with buttons. Things you can shake. Roll. Hit. Sit her up and roll a ball between you. Put things just out of her reach so she has to move to get them.

titchy Thu 08-Oct-20 18:15:47

* I did my research before I chose not to vaccinate her and I’m happy with my decision,*
You didn't do any research at all don't be stupid. You found a few quack articles online that supported your view that vaccines were bad. That's not research love.

mynameiscalypso Thu 08-Oct-20 18:16:21

With respect, no amount of proper research will lead you to the conclusion that it's best not to vaccinate.

titchy Thu 08-Oct-20 18:17:23

Hasn't she even had tetanus? shock

Rainyrain Thu 08-Oct-20 18:21:05

Do you play with the baby? At 10 months you can’t really expect her to entertain herself.
She doesn’t really need tv either at her age. Get on the floor with her and bang some pots and pans or build a tower to knock down, sing nursery rhymes, go for a swing at the park, talk to her all the time about everything. Don’t just pop her in front of the tv and expect her to get on with playing solo.
She does need finger foods too. I always cut foods into adult ring finger size and basically gave them whatever we were having (no honey as already mentioned).

I don’t think you fully understand vaccinations. It’s great to vaccinate to protect your own child but it’s actually needed to protect others who can’t be vaccinated.
Maybe do a little more research into all areas of caring for your baby and speak to a health visitor. It’s probably been hard to see them in person over the last few months but I’m sure they’re on the end of the phone.

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