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What have you achieved since LTB?(5 Posts)
Just that really.
I LTB almost 8 years ago. Without him holding me back and sabotaging my life in that 8 years I have:-
- Travelled and worked in multiple countries (this enabled me to massively improve my ability in two other languages and learn/experience fun stuff like skiing and diving that I’d never had the opportunity to do before).
- Got into the best physical shape/fitness of my life (then lost it due to injury + illness, but working on getting it back now).
- Obtained financial security and implemented a successful retirement/future plan (starting from absolutely nothing).
- Met a decent DP who treats me well and makes me laugh every day.
Hoping this will help and/or inspire other posters to leave their abusive/lazy/useless millstones.
I've achieved peace.
Peace from the worry of no money in the bank. I have a very low wage now and get UC due to trying to work around school hours but at least I am in control of my money now and not worrying that I'll look in the bank or try to use my card and there will be nothing there.
Peace from not permanently having my stomach in knots.
No more feeling dread everytime I come home and wondering if he's home or not and momentary relief when he's not, which is then replaced by the dread of him coming home and wondering what state he will be in.
I'm in a much better financial position - I would dread ever having to ask him for any money as he would have a go at me asking why I had no money left at the end of each month despite the fact I was paying every single bill and he kept all his spare money to spend on himself.
I've retrained in a career I have been looking at for many years.
I've been on short courses for example learning basic spanish
Life in general is much brighter - as PP said there's no feeling of dread each day, no wondering what mood he will be in, no creeping about on eggshells....
Also I am a lot more open when chatting with people now. I don't think I realised just how much I closed myself off because I was so unhappy in my marriage.
I didn't let on anything about the situation, if someone asked me anything then I'd be very vague and turn the conversation to something else to avoid talking about it.
I’m the woman I was born to be.
InTotal control of my finances.
Married to a lovely man who encourages me to be myself.
Have a lovely ( retired) life based on family, travel and having fun
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