In my 20's I had good friends, we were really there for each other and I think happy for each other doing well, sad if things didn't work out.
As I have got older I have noticed people are so competitive. I am having some problems at the moment with my DD being diagnosed with possible ASD, and the thought of talking to even my closest friends makes me feel sad. I feel like they would be happy to hear that she is having issues. There is so much competition around children's attainment and things like that.
DD has a very sweet nature and is friendly and a little idiosyncratic and in her own world. I have had people make snide remarks about her to me and compare how well there children are doing in contrast to her. She is a very bright girl but you would only know it if you were very close to her and saw her relaxed in herself.
The whole mum friendship group is a very competitive one, with lots of one competition about holidays, second houses etc. I feel like children are just another level of this to people and it put's me off sharing my worries.
I wonder if anyone else has felt the same. I am pulling away from people as I find it all so distasteful, but at the same time, really would like someone to talk to about my worries for her and how this is affecting her at school.
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Feel like female friends are so competitive they would be happy my child has SEND
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alfieum · 06/10/2020 10:40
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