Just that, really. My mother seemed to like my kids, liked being a gran, and though we live several hours apart she wanted to see them and play a role in their lives.
When the older was 10, younger 7, she stopped making an effort. The funny thing is I remember her mother being the same. I never had any sense that my gran was bothered one way or another. We got a card with a £1 coin taped inside at Christmas.
My mother now does gift cards for the kids (16 and 13) and that’s fine, but she never communicates with them. Phone conversations were 40 mins of chat about her life, random family members, and then ‘Are A and B doing ok? I knew they would be.’ The end.
As you can guess we are not close, and I prefer that she’s not around. If she made an effort with them, I’d make an effort with her, but she hasn’t even seen them or suggested we see her for a number of years now.
I just wonder what she thinks the outcome of this can be? I should say she has two step grandchildren and as far as I know she’s a normal gran, childcare and taking them to classes etc. (I’ve never met them.)
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If you’re a gran, what would make you be uninterested in your grandkids?
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nibdedibble · 05/10/2020 16:25
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