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ill with guilt

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4Wellness · 05/10/2020 13:15

Guilt ridden for reporting my bf for tax fraud after finding he used prostitutes

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nevernotstruggling · 05/10/2020 13:16

Don't be. That was courageous x

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TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 05/10/2020 13:17

Well, I don't think he'll be your bf for much longer.

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Hadalifeonce · 05/10/2020 13:18

Well done you.

It's people like your BF who are stealing from the rest of us.

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grool · 05/10/2020 13:22

Well, I don't think he'll be your boyfriend for much longer

Considering he's been using prostitutes, it's no great loss...

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4Wellness · 05/10/2020 13:23

He hasn't been for 6 months now, not after the prostitute fiasco

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stillsomewhatsheldonesque · 05/10/2020 13:30

Guilt ridden or maybe disease ridden?

Easy choice.

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CarolVordermansBum · 05/10/2020 13:32

@stillsomewhatsheldonesque 🤣🤣🤣


Dont be guilty OP, its him that should be guilty

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FourPlasticRings · 05/10/2020 13:34

Don't feel guilty. He should feel guilty.

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4Wellness · 05/10/2020 13:45

Thankfully not Sheldon , or I'd have chopped it off lol

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4Wellness · 05/10/2020 13:47

Thanks guys, I do feel he deserves to be reported I'm just disappointed in myself for being the one to do it,
I've never wronged anyone before and this is playing heavy on my conscience

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jamie980 · 05/10/2020 14:19

@4Wellness he’s not the one who’s been wronged here, remember that. He’s cheated on you and on the system and he is now having to pay the price for both. Totally understand why you are feeling that way but put the blame where it belongs x

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4Wellness · 05/10/2020 14:24

[quote jamie980]@4Wellness he’s not the one who’s been wronged here, remember that. He’s cheated on you and on the system and he is now having to pay the price for both. Totally understand why you are feeling that way but put the blame where it belongs x[/quote]
Thank you for that, seeing it said like that does make me feel less of a git

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jessstan1 · 05/10/2020 14:46

Did you report him because you feel it is wrong to get out of paying tax or because you are annoyed he has used prostitutes and wanted revenge?

In your position I'd have just finished with him, which you did. I can't imagine reporting anyone for tax fiddling which is terribly difficult to prove anyway.

What's done is done, move on.

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4Wellness · 05/10/2020 15:12

@jessstan1

Did you report him because you feel it is wrong to get out of paying tax or because you are annoyed he has used prostitutes and wanted revenge?

In your position I'd have just finished with him, which you did. I can't imagine reporting anyone for tax fiddling which is terribly difficult to prove anyway.

What's done is done, move on.

I do feel it's wrong, I'd certainly not do it for fear of repercussions, but I know that I wouldn't normally get involved, this is totally out of character for me which is why I'm struggling with it...
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jessstan1 · 05/10/2020 15:18

You can't undo it and I doubt it has hurt his pocket that much - investigations may be ongoing or abandoned if large sums are not involved. Let's face it, we all pay tax and don't want to pay more if we can avoid it.

Try not to think of it any more and get on with your life.

It must be quite a shock to find out your partner has been seeing prostitutes but he's history now.

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