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ArtemisBean Tue 29-Sep-20 18:54:16

DH and I have finally decided to find out the sex of our second baby at the 20 week scan in a couple of weeks. This will definitely be our last baby. We already have DS who is a complete joy. Obviously I will love and adore number two just as much regardless of sex, but I confess I'm feeling a bit apprehensive about having a second boy and being outnumbered for the rest of my life! 😂 I guess I'd expect boys to end up gravitating more to DH as they grow up, but maybe I'm wrong? If you have boys and no girls, tell me all the lovely things about it so I can get properly excited about the future! 😁

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GalOopNorth Tue 29-Sep-20 18:56:04

3 boys. All gorgeous I’m totally different ways grin

GalOopNorth Tue 29-Sep-20 18:56:20

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TheChippendenSpook Tue 29-Sep-20 18:57:43

I've got two boys and they are both closer to me than their dad. My eldest is in his late teens and is a joy! He tells me everything and we are very very close. I'm very close to my younger son too. They're lovely!

Fred578 Tue 29-Sep-20 18:57:57

I have two boys... they are wonderful. They love spending time with Dad playing football but are very affectionate and loving with me. Plus they’re thick as thieves and best mates!

MsEllany Tue 29-Sep-20 18:58:03

I have three boys of my own plus a now grown up step son.

I love having boys. They are much more affectionate than I ever was as a child, even the one most like me. They’re 11, 11 and nearly 9 and they still have fights over who gets to sit next to me at dinner time!

Sometimes I have a wistful wondering about having a daughter but it’s never stronger than a “I wonder what would have been different” kind of ponder. I absolutely love being a mother of boys.

Anniemabel Tue 29-Sep-20 18:59:13

Same here, 3 boys and gutted not to have a girl. Individually they are all so different from each other and so lovely. Each has traits that would be considered stereotypical “boy” traits and each has a few stereotypical “girl” traits so really it makes no difference.

They love each other and play really nicely together!

DonaldTrumpsChopper Tue 29-Sep-20 18:59:22

Two boys. One sporty and bouncy. One gentle and musical. Both absolutely adorable. I love being outnumbered, and they still come to me for cuddles, even though they're both taller than me.

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer Tue 29-Sep-20 18:59:35

I had dd then Ds1, and when I fell pregnant with dc3 I was convinced I was having another girl.. A scan at 30+ weeks showed that I was actually having ds2! Honestly? I have loved being a boy mum. (Age gaps meant it’s been a good few years just me and the boys at home.) They have taught me to love Marvel movies and Doctor Who, and I swear teenage boys are waaay easier. I might be outnumbered, but I’m super close to both my sons.

Anniemabel Tue 29-Sep-20 19:00:11

I should have been clearer in that although I’m gutted not to have a girl but I’m very very happy with my boys!

AdelaideK Tue 29-Sep-20 19:01:38

Mine are 13 and 17 and just as close to me as they are to their dad.

I don't feel outnumbered. I don't think of them as the opposite sex to me, they're just my kids. And fabulous they are too.

OhioOhioOhio Tue 29-Sep-20 19:01:45

The love in our house is spectacular. Wouldn't change my boys for the world.

justanotherneighinparadise Tue 29-Sep-20 19:03:38

Not at all my experience. My boys gravitate more towards me if anything, although they also adore DH. Yes they are boisterous, so if that’s the thing most women hate I can understand the concern. My house is a mess as they tear through it, but they’re wonderful, interesting, curious and loving. Given the choice I’d take two boys every time.

neversayalways Tue 29-Sep-20 19:04:00

Two boys here. Absolutely adore them. Loving, cuddly, fun. Can't imagine having girls now. My eldest is a lovely sensitive, emotionally intelligent, empathetic and attuned boy. (the youngest is a bit young to figure out!).

SeaToSki Tue 29-Sep-20 19:04:16

I have three DSes. My boys are wonderful, they love having each other as brothers and their bonds are close and strong. They help each other, tease each other and run into each others bedrooms to fart. They also love me fiercely which fills my soul.

susie2014 Tue 29-Sep-20 19:05:30

Don't know what age gap you have but I have two boys, 18 months apart, and 90 per cent of the time they are best friends. I'm not a particularly sentimental person but watching how they have each other's backs is totally heart melting - I hope they're always this close. And it's much easier to balance interests - they like the same films and days out and like to do the same stuff on holiday. Of course, the other 10 per cent of the time it's proper fist fights now but we won't dwell on that! In all seriousness though I'm really happy to have got two boys

IHateCoronavirus Tue 29-Sep-20 19:05:39

Congratulations on your baby, you will find regardless of their sex your little one will bring joy to your family.
My youngest boy (4) is definitely a mummy’s boy. Rubs his little cheek on mine and says “I love you mummy because you are so soft and squishy!” grin
He has also declared that he loves my big squishy arms and my big squishy tummy and once, when we stopped at the services and he came to the toilet with me he squealed at the top of his little lungs “look at your lovely big squishy legs!” hmm

speakout Tue 29-Sep-20 19:09:11

I only have one son, but he has always been closer to me than his father- I have a DD too, she was closer to me when she was young, but now equally close to us both.

I think personality is more important than sex.

I am thinking about men I know, friends, ex lovers- many have been closer to their mothers than fathers- and I was always much closer to my own father than mother.

Bunnybigears Tue 29-Sep-20 19:09:46

2 boys aged 13 and 10. The 13 year old is fiercely independent and Is at the grunting at both me and DH stage but when he does decided to talk to us he is very witty genuinely one of the funniest people I know. He is also 6ft tall and rediculously handsome. The 10 uear old is a cuddle monster, still takes his bear to bed and still climbs on my knee for a cuddle while we watch TV. He is small for his age and not going to be as classically handsome as his brother but he is the sweetest most thoughtful boy. Honestly neither of them have a nasty, mean or spiteful bone in their body and a lot of my friends with girls say the tween and teen years can be horrendous with girls.

AdelaideK Tue 29-Sep-20 19:11:07

Also my two are very different to each other but neither of them are wild, boisterous, rough and tumble types that people are keen to describe boys as.

Lazysundayafternoons Tue 29-Sep-20 19:11:34

Two boys here, 7 and 1.

Both so different but both so amazing.
Have a great bond with their father but are both mummy's boys. 7yo will often stop mid whatever he is doing just to say he loves me. Tells me he is really lucky to have me, is really grateful (and tells me) when I do something to make him happy, for his birthday I got him decorations with Mario on them, he said "thank you making so much effort with the Mario decoration".

1yo and 7yo absolutely love each other to pieces, 7 yo said he loves 1yo more than anyone else in the world, even more than he loves me and his dad.

1yo is a daredevil and I've aged about 10 years since having him, but I wouldnt change him for the world.

bluebluezoo Tue 29-Sep-20 19:15:03

I guess I'd expect boys to end up gravitating more to DH as they grow up-

Why?

It’s the same as any friendship/relationship, you need to find common ground. A penis is not it.

Forget the stereotypes and find interests your boys enjoy doing. Don’t assume it will be football and computers, and only “boy” activities you wil hate.

Look beyond gender roles. You may find you adore Lego or Marvel films. They may grow up to love shopping. It’s about finding activities you have in common and enjoying them together, rather than assuming you won’t because of a penis.

I am not a boy but I still gravitated toward my dad as I grew up. He enjoyed Sports and science, and I did too. I actually ended up with a pretty poor relationship with my mum because she felt I should be more like her, be interested in clothes, getting my nails done etc. I simply didn’t enjoy spending time with her wandering round shops, i preferred to go to the park with my dad.

My own children don’t gravitate to one or the other. If they want to go shopping they’ll ask their dad, if they Need help with science or sort the pets they ask me. We all know who likes do what and work on that basis, rather than separating by sex. Which actually I see many parents doing. Boy spends time with dad playing footie, girl is with mum at ballet class, shopping, or getting their nails done.

Itshissister Tue 29-Sep-20 19:16:31

They smell.
They fart.
They pick their nose.

Congratulations!

BettySweaty Tue 29-Sep-20 19:16:54

My boys 15 and 13 and a 20 year old step son. I had so many cuddles when they were growing up and sooo many happy memories.

In my experience it was people who didn't have all boys that had a problem. Someone once said to me after the birth of my beautiful second son, 'oh, you will be trying again for a girl then'. angry. No!!!!!

It's brilliant. No one steals my make up, perfume etc, I absolutely love it.

Am the very best with your little family flowers

SandMason Tue 29-Sep-20 19:44:56

3 boys here, and they’re fantastic! Boisterous, affectionate, full of fun. My house is pretty wrecked and I’ve grey hairs from the wildly dangerous stunts they pull, but honestly they’re just the best ever. Never a dull moment. They do need exercising, and entire loaves of bread just seem to evaporate, but the way I see it that’s more exercise for me too (and less bread grin), so it’s all good. Congratulations!

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