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Based on how your life has panned out so far, if given the choice to go back in time and choose whether to be born or not.....

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KneeyonceBowles Tue 29-Sep-20 01:50:51

Just that really.

You have the power to decide whether to be brought into this world or not. If you say no, you will simply vanish from existence. Yes, and life will play out exactly how it already has i.e. there's no opportunity to make different choices etc...

Mine would be a resounding NO. The pointlessness of life actually overwhelms me at times.

I am not depressed, I have a fairly good life/job/family/friends etc. Yet, I can't think of any circumstance that would make me think that there was any point to any of this ...*gestures vaguely*

So if you had a choice, what would it be?

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Yipitsme Tue 29-Sep-20 01:57:44

A big definite No from me.i struggle wanting to stay alive most days.i regret so much.

Anordinarymum Tue 29-Sep-20 01:59:56

I would say yes but to anybody else's parentssmile

caughtalightsneeze Tue 29-Sep-20 02:02:57

I'm not depressed either, I quite like my life, but I'd go for not being born. Because I wouldn't know any different so there's nothing to lose.

TheFormerPorpentinaScamander Tue 29-Sep-20 02:07:38

Not. Like @Yipitsme I spend most days not wanting to be here. flowers to Yip. Its a horrible feeling.

TheNortherner Tue 29-Sep-20 02:07:54

I think I enjoyed life upto my early 20s but the last 20 have been more hardships and stress, so i think on balance, it's a No.

Lincs90 Tue 29-Sep-20 02:09:39

I would. I'm really happy and grateful to be alive. It's not always easy but I enjoy so much about being alive.

Yipitsme Tue 29-Sep-20 02:12:38

@TheFormerPorpentinaScamander thank you.

Time40 Tue 29-Sep-20 02:21:32

I'd choose No.

NiceGerbil Tue 29-Sep-20 02:28:45

Firm no from me.

And would have said that for most of my life.

NiceGerbil Tue 29-Sep-20 02:30:03

TBF though there's probably a bias amongst those who are still up at 2am on a Monday night. I think it's Monday anyway.

KneeyonceBowles Tue 29-Sep-20 02:30:24

@Anordinarymum your life will have to play out exactly as it already has, no changes 😔

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BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze Tue 29-Sep-20 02:31:07

No. I’d love to just vanish from existence at the moment. The last few years haven’t been great but the last month has really made me feel like I’d rather not be here. I don’t like the world we live in and after the last month I’d rather just not have to bother anymore. 😔

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alwayscrashinginthesamecar1 Tue 29-Sep-20 02:34:58

Yes I'd definitely go around again! I enjoy life and have had a lot of fun and adventures. Some bits have been hard, but on the whole its been a good life.

NiceGerbil Tue 29-Sep-20 02:36:28

Oh but.

Never born. Great.

Vanish now? No. Children. So have to stay.

1forAll74 Tue 29-Sep-20 02:38:37

I am glad that I was born, despite it being in the war years, It means that I have experienced all the changes,,good and bad, in all the eras since then, so it's been worthy for lots of things in life, good and bad again, as I have had the usual crap and upsets along the way.

I would not like to be born now though. It's quite a dangerous world to live in now. People have become addicted to techno stuff, and are becoming zombified, and good manners and morals have been lost along the way.

KneeyonceBowles Tue 29-Sep-20 02:44:08

@NiceGerbil you're probably right, results may be skewed due to posting time!

I get irrationally angry at not being given a choice in the matter! I saw a picture somewhere that said something like ' I can't believe 2 people had sex 40 years ago, and now I have to go to work(substitute for any other mundane, adult, activity) tomorrow '

So pessimistic but so APT!

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NiceGerbil Tue 29-Sep-20 02:45:01

Don't be angry.

You're here.

Get through as best you can smile

Mimishimi Tue 29-Sep-20 03:32:34

No. I am from a minority that is not on the 'winning' side of history. We don't have a CIA or Mossad to look out for us either. We just fight and die sad

HerRoyalNotness Tue 29-Sep-20 03:33:50

I’ve only about 3years of happiness and carefreeness in my life, so I’d say no. I wouldn’t want to go through it all again. But my lovely D.C. wouldn’t exist either. But maybe I’m the only one that finds
Them lovely hmm

Fromage Tue 29-Sep-20 03:48:33

No. I really should never have been born. I wasn't planned or wanted and it went downhill frimm there.

I would post the same were it a Saturday afternoon.

Cailleach Tue 29-Sep-20 03:52:47

No. I'm autistic and life is basically a terrible struggle every day with nothing to look forward to. My existence is pointless.

RaisinGhost Tue 29-Sep-20 04:13:06

The pointlessness of life actually overwhelms me at times.

It doesn't bother me if life is pointless. In fact it's good - I usually fail at everything so if there was a point or end goal, I certainly wouldn't reach it. I'm happy "wasting" time on Netflix or eating biscuits, because I may as well right, why not?

Shakespearsister Tue 29-Sep-20 04:15:59

Much more interesting thought is if you could go back in time what would you change ?. I did a few things in my teens I would avoid in hindsight, mostly involving stepping out of my knickers. But I did work abroad before I settled down and I wouldn’t have changed that. And I think I would make more of an effort to understand my mother. She had a tough early life but you don’t appreciate that growing up.

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